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Do You Always Believe the Best of Every Person?

thoughtspowerDo you allow negative thoughts to feed your feelings about others? Since most of what we hear is not always positive, it is a choice to decide to believe the best and not the worst of every person and situation, isn’t it?

Is this hard to do? In some situations it is easier than others, but we must be on guard to not let the negative thoughts pop up instead of valuing and caring for others! How about when you are driving and others are not as careful as they should be? Does ‘road rage’ automatically set in? Do you ever stop to think about what might be causing the person to drive like they are?

This is an easier one for me to handle, but for some I have seen this rob them of their joy, peace, and concern for others, and whenever they get in their car they expect to see bad driving and it becomes a way of life as to how they let their feelings react to it. Funny thing is, the other driver didn’t even know the impact they had, we let them control our feelings and emotions willingly.  In doing so, we not only robbed ourselves but we also brought others that are around us into the same mindset as well!

What about those that have intentionally hurt your business, family, and others?  This is really pushing the choice of finding and believing the best in a person because we are focused on what they did, not on the why, aren’t we?  I have not always been perfect at handling situations that involve confrontation and not letting my feelings explode! How about you?

However, I have finally realized, thanks to a great book by Joyce Meyer, called “Living Beyond Your Feelings” to truly live a purpose driven life and be successful and happy, I have to have a plan to not let my emotions and feelings run wild, and to face each person and situation looking for and believing the best and not the worse. This also includes seeing and believing the best of yourself too! No more negative talk about yourself, as this is not helping you see and believe the best in others!

Joyce shared, a great way to get in the mindset of thinking this new way is when you feel those emotions and feelings of negativity start to build is to immediately think of things that make you happy. Flip your mind off the negative feelings onto something that changes your attitude and the situation. It won’t take long to see that you would rather live in positive thoughts about others and yourself than live in the negatives. You never know when you start looking for and believing the best in others it not only changes your life, but it could change their life too!

Have a great week believing the best in yourself and every person, and love to hear how it works for you!

 

Together We Are Better

better togetherSaturday night as I was preparing for dinner guests, I noticed that the green plant that has been sitting on the counter for several months was looking really droopy, and I started to toss it out.  (In spite of the best efforts of my grandmother, I never developed much of a green thumb!)  As often happens to me, I interrupted myself, and started arranging the flowers I had for the table.  Suddenly, I had an idea.  I stuck some of the live flowers into the green plant.  The results were amazing!  A few days later, a friend who is in my house often, saw it, and exclaimed, “Wow, I didn’t know that plant bloomed like that!”  I told my story, and we both had a laugh.  I have no idea how long that solution will last, but in the meantime, I’m enjoying the results.

The episode caused me to think about how many times we throw something out — whether it’s a physical item or an intellectual idea — when with a little more ingenuity we could create something beautiful.  It also was a beautiful illustration of one of my favorite life philosophies: “Together We Are Better.”

By itself, the green plant left much to be desired, and the red flowers I put in it were dramatically enhanced by the addition of the plant.

The same principle applies to relationships.  When I decided it was time to update Taming the Paper Tiger at Home, I wanted to make sure it would appeal to future generations, so I partnered with Jennifer Wig to write Organizing Paper @Home: What To Toss and How To Find the Rest! to add a younger perspective.

My business partner, Andrea Anderson, and I frequently refer to each other as “Peanut Butter” and “Jelly.”   I love to be out front, and she thrives behind the scenes.  Together We Are Better!

So here’s my challenge for you this week, “What area of your life would be improved — or be more enjoyable — if you partnered with someone else who has skills that are complimentary to yours?”

HemphillBar0711-133Barbara Hemphill is a Nationally known Productivity Expert, helping people eliminate the physical, digital, and emotional clutter that prevents them for accomplishing their work and enjoying their lives! To book Barbara as your next Keynote Speaker or Seminar/Workshop Presenter: contact Sue Falcone at 1-888-766-3155 or email her at sue@simplysuespeaks.com.

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

Do Women Have to Be Mean to Succeed in Business?

I think that somewhere along the way, some women got this idea that in order to succeed they had to be aggressive, mean, and out for themselves – that touchy feely, heartsy, lets all join hands and do this together, just wasn’t going to cut it in business.

And some women got the idea that being confident, aggressive, bold, and competitive is too mean. And women are supposed to be nice. It’s in the rule book.

I’d like to suggest that there is a happy place in the middle of pompously self-absorbedand take my job I don’t need it as much as you do.  I’d like to suggest that you can have a bold opinion, outsell your competitor, dominate in your industry, and still be likeable, humble, respected and even revered.

I’d like to suggest to all you really mean women out there, that aside from the fact that you are making enemies, you probably aren’t winning as much business as you could.

I’d like to suggest to all of you overly nice women out there, that it doesn’t have to be all give and no take. You are allowed to have a strong opinion. You are allowed to know what makes you better than your competitor. You are allowed to be proud of your achievements and accomplishments and to always be striving for higher.

I’d like to suggest that we as women take a look around and see how we’re doing at really helping and encouraging and supporting each other – and yet also taking a look around and seeing how well we are doing about owning our own gifts, stepping into our jobs with confidence, being bold and taking business that we have worked hard to get.

Then again – it’s just a suggestion. Probably not even heard by the ones who need to hear it most.

I’m just saying.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.