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Is It Time to Be “Intentional?”

intentionalDo you know that 90% of Americans go to work when they are ill, even though they shouldn’t? Why is that? I have done my share to infect others, how about you?

But last week, it all caught up with me! Your past always does at some point in your life! I realized I had a choice, either accept I was ill and take care of myself; or continue to ignore the facts, and end up in worse shape! Funny part of all this is my husband, Carmen, also got the same stuff;  and so there was a total shutdown of life as we thought it was supposed to be!

What had happened? We had this all set to go! Plans were in place, goals were set, appointments and schedules were confirmed; how could we just make the choice to rest and reschedule and give into being ill, instead of keeping commitments to others and to ourselves?

For type A personalities it is a huge decision to admit you are not well enough to do what you have planned, and then not want to pick up something to put in place of the missing action!  I was proud of the fact that I am extremely healthy and have not had to face being ill many times in my life; but at this point I knew I was done and down. I had to do what was best for me, or face the possibility that none of what I was concerned about would even matter.

It has taken longer than I ever thought for us to recover, however, this has been one of the best listening and learning experiences of my life!  I had no choice but to experience and listen to what my physical, emotional, and spiritual self was telling me. Many of my friends, business associates, team members, and mentors encouraged me to make this a time of learning as well as healing. They could see things I didn’t want to face, and were urging me to do what I needed to do for me!

I am thankful now for their WOW ( words of wisdom) for I found there are 3 areas I need to have a clear understanding and plan before I kick into high gear again!   These are: (1)  Priorities- are they the right ones, and in the right order?  (2) Time Management-how wise am I managing it? (3)  Am I really clutter-free and enjoying my life- do my systems and processes allow me to do this?

Not a pretty site as I lay there doing my best to keep warm and the fever at bay! How was I able to get this transparent with myself and be able to share it with others?  I went back to one of my favorite pastimes- reading! My first choice is the scriptures and since we had already chosen a “Verse of the Year” I spent time thinking on these words:

“Those who wait upon God get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles, they run and don’t get tired., they walk and don’t lag behind.” The Message-Isaiah 40:31.

I felt better already, knowing I was starting with the right priority for me!

I picked up two books that I had been wanting to get into, and took my time reading and listening to their words and thoughts. Just released by one of our speakers, Barbara Hemphill, entitled “Less Clutter More Life” www.lesscluttermorelife.com was what I needed to hear, and the ways to accomplish what I really wanted. Thanks, Barbara for that gift, it really helped me!

Then another book by one of my favorite people, Linda Apple, called “Writing Life” www.lindaapple.com/ showed me I had “let go” of some of my writing and blogging skills and that to be really be who I am, and do what I do, I needed to recapture them! Linda shares that our “stories matter” and she is a master teacher and motivational speaker sharing how to use your gifts and make them come alive on paper! Thanks, Linda for showing me the way back to enjoy reading and sharing “my story” with others once again!

We are now ready to launch into the New Year officially.  It will be a different beginning than we had originally planned! Our vision is still the same, but how we carry it out will be changing! We had chosen “Intentional” as our “Word of the Year” and how to make it key to the success and growth of our business and personal lives.  The speakers we represent here at “Simply” Sue Speaks! Global Booking Agency know how to bring the #WOWfactor experience to each of your events, and help you be the best you can be!  They also know how to help their “agent” make needed changes too!

I would never wish for you the illness we experienced to be the “wake up call” to motivate you to take a long hard look at your life; but take it from us that “the best is yet to come” for you when you are living with an intentional plan, purpose, and passion for it!  Isn’t it time?

Have a great “Intentional” week,

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“Simply” Sue Falcone
Owner: “Simply” Sue Speaks! Global Booking Agency

 

 

 

 

Happy Motivation Monday on National Coffee Day!

We here at “Simply” Sue Speaks! love Mondays! A new week, beginning, and excitement about what is ahead for the Professionals we represent here! They are awesome, and love what I get to do, bring them to YOU!

Hope you have an amazing day, and the “Dunkin” is brewing here, how are you celebrating?

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Weekly #WOWfactor- Go for the Dream

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Many people I meet share their dreams; but few are actually living them out! What is it that makes us afraid to pursue what we know we are meant to be and do? There are two deciding factors that come into play at this point!  The biggest is the lack of belief in ourselves, and the other is surrounding ourselves with those who don’t believe in us either!

To address the first one it takes making a choice on keeping your  mindset and attitude focused on being positive and living in your strengths and not your weaknesses. Sounds simple for me to state, but not so easy to do, is it?  Some things to review quickly are: what do you read, how much time do you spend watching TV, how many times a day do you say “I can’t”, how healthy are you,  and how many times a day do you laugh? Renewing our minds daily is very important and key to making sure we are valuing ourselves and following our dream. It also helps us to face and view the hard times, decisions and choices as learning experiences instead of giving in and quitting!

Handling the second factor will certainly help! Jim Rohn said it best: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  Take a look at who you spend the most time with. Do you have 5? Do you know who they are? Do they know it? Need to make some changes? Relationships are so valuable in how we live out our purpose and the pursuing of our dreams. Take a look at your five: are they uplifting, positive people? Are they living their dream? Do you need to make some changes?

In America we are so blessed and able to pursue our dreams. Are you ready to Go for it? What will your world look like a year from now?  I believe in you! I know you can Go for Your Dream! The question is: do you?

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It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

They Aren’t The Reason You Are Miserable

grouchyBeing a motivational speaker feels a lot like being a therapist, only without the degree, knowledge, or credibility. But still I meet people in their places of brokenness. I hear their issues and concerns. And I try to motivate them to see their problems/issues from a different perspective. And one of the consistent things I find in people, is the belief that their problem is someone else.

My boss is  jerk.

They didn’t value my opinion.

He didn’t call.

She’s always running her mouth about something.

He drives me crazy.

She thinks I don’t have anything else to do but wait on her.

They didn’t pay me what I’m worth.

He’s an ungrateful teenager and I’m sick of it.

She thinks she’s better than everybody else.

They didn’t give me my money’s worth.

She just has it out for me.

Nobody will cut me any slack.

Sound familiar?

We all find ourselves victim to this sort of thinking. We don’t live in a bubble. Our lives are filled with people, and many of them are difficult to deal with.  And while we are often valid in our assessment of these people, it doesn’t change the truth – that we can’t fix them, change them, or find perfect people who act exactly as we want.

And they aren’t the problem.

We are.

Yes, I said it. And you’re probably mad. But it’s true.

They aren’t the reason you are miserable.

YOU are.

Life is filled with things circling us that are beyond our control – things happening to us – around us. Things that involve us directly, indirectly, or not really at all.  So much of what is circling around us can’t be controlled. Sure, some of it can be, and we should definitely work to control what we can in our lives. But the only thing you can control in EVERY situation, is how YOU will react to it.

YOU control your reaction.

YOU control your feelings. Well, maybe at first you  can’t control your initial reaction. But after you calm down, you can.

YOU decide what story you are going to write with this data you have been given, even if you are standing in the middle of the colossal mess. YOU still control whether you will allow it to make you miserable.

Unless you have a chemical imbalance, or issues bigger than you (in which case, this does not really apply to you, except that it is YOUR responsibility to get help for it and not use it as an excuse) you can control your reactions, your emotions, and your happiness. Yes, it’s a choice.

YOU are the one who turns one bad moment into a bad hour, and then a bad day, and a bad week, and a bad life. You are the one who instead of letting it go, carries it around with you like a comfort blanket – finding more people to share your issue with – making it the focus of all your time, energy, and conversations.

So, unless you want to stay miserable (which apparently some people do – and actually thrive on it) that’s your choice. Just acknowledge that it’s your fault, not theirs. They aren’t the reason you are miserable. You are.

You can choose happiness. And if you do it enough, one day you’ll wake up, and it just is.

If we let others make us miserable, we always will be.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by “Our State Magazine” as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

Motivational Speakers Still Need Points

Motivational Speaking Isn’t Just About Making People Feel Good

micI’m amazed at how many aspiring motivational speakers I meet who just want to get on a stage and make people feel good.

Really?

Well, here’s the first bucket of cold water: Nobody cares about that. And, even more important, nobody’s paying for that. I have yet to ever be called by a client who wants me to just come make them feel good.

So if you think your career will consist of you getting on a stage and telling them stories about yourself that make them laugh and cry, you have missed something very important. The point.

Motivational Speakers Need Points

I made the same mistake when I crossed over from professional storyteller to professional speaker. I figured I could just get up there and wow them with my wit and charm them with my stories. While this is still a BIG part of what I do, and the reason that gets me booked, it wasn’t enough. I needed points. I needed a message. I needed to teach my audience something.

The good news is that it’s not hard to find your message. In fact, I think you already  have them. They are your truths. The things you have learned. What life and business has taught you. You just haven’t had anyone help pull them out of you.

Whether you hire a speaker coach like me, or do it yourself, take the time to figure out the points you want to make. Understand the problem that you are here to solve. Know the steps you want to share with them to help them fix this problem. Make sure your language is encouraging and has a call to action.

Then you can focus on the wit and the stories.

If you need help finding the point, just let me know. Until then, happy soul searching!

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

Why They Love You But Don’t Buy From You: Tips To Sell Dream Products

Just Because They Love You, Doesn’t Mean They’ll Buy You

I heard those words at a recent conference for keynote speakers, and they changed my entire perspective on my business. I have been assuming that an audience who loves you will automatically buy from you.

Not true.

Having them love you and having them buy from you are two very different things.

But first, you do have to get them to love you. They must like you, believe you, and trust you before you can ever hope to get them to buy from you.  And after that, you have to get them to buy from you. That’s what I learned recently – that there are a certain set of skills, things you must say, things you can do, to prompt them to buy.  I’ll keep you posted on those things later. But for now, let’s just focus on the broad strokes.

1. Understand that you have something they want.  I’ve been very guilty of thinking that I’m forcing them to buy my products. That’s not true. People want to take a piece of what I do home with them. I’ve done shows without even bringing my books, and had people in the audience disappointed because they wanted to buy one. So if you’re like me, it’s time to change your thinking. We have something they want. They want to extend the magic you gave them in person. You are not pushing a product, you are offering them more value. So believe in what you are selling and the value it will bring to the buyer. (And if it’s crap, then create something better.)

2. Be excited about what you have to offer.  Now that you know you have something of value – ACT LIKE IT! Get excited about your product. Make sure your language reflects your excitement.

3. Ask for the sale.  Here’s the big part I’ve been missing. I’ve been assuming that if they want it, they’ll ask for it. And most of the time I never even told them there was anything to ask for! I know, I’m a slow learner. Do you have a call to action? Are you asking them to buy your book? Are you asking them to call and book you today? Are you asking them to sign up for your newsletter or like you on Facebook? Take a look at all the language you use and all the touch points you have with your market  (on stage, in a blog, in a sales call, on the web, on Facebook) and see if you have incorporated a call to action. Sometimes it’s as simple as asking for it.

4. Just do it!  Yeah, here’s the hard part. Doing it.  I get it. This is my weakness. I have a stack of things I need to do to grow my business. The problem is finding the time and sitting down and doing it. So I’m moving this top of my list. This is top priority. This requires immediate action. So I’m making a commitment to you and to the universe, that I will start working on this now – as in this week.

So in the spirit of following my own advice, I’m going to ask if you’ve read my book – “Who Hijacked My Fairy Tale?”  It will make you laugh and touch your heart. It’s filled with funny stories and tips to help you hang on to humor when life doesn’t go the way you planned. It’s particularly good for those going through cancer treatments, as it makes people laugh and for a moment forget their pain.  You can order it on Amazon or on the Kindle. I think you can now even rent books on Kindle. How cool is that?

So if you’re looking for a funny light read, or perhaps something that would make a great gift, hop on Amazon today and get your copy while supplies last.  And if you’ve already read it, I would LOVE for you to go to this link and review it for me.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004SBWPUU

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

What if I had just looked up?

Yesterday was a really fun and exciting day for me. I’ll give you more details later about that, but for now they aren’t important. All that matters is that I’m skipping to my car in the parking deck. Okay, so maybe not actually skipping. Let’s get real. I start to skip and things start moving that take hours to settle down. But I was having one of those delicious moments in life when the winter-gray slush-covered world around you bursts into sparkling color and you want to spin and throw your arms around and laugh into the sky like they do in all those stock photos and Metamucil commercials.  I didn’t even mind that the only space I could find to park was on the third floor. I was in my own world, completely oblivious to the people bustling around me.

I’m in a line of drivers exiting the parking deck when I see the flashing lights and yellow tape. And the body. There, blocking our path out of the parking deck and onto the street, was a bundled up man lying face down in the snow covered street. My world turned into slow motion as I watched people run up with blankets and stop as the policeman shook his head and without words indicated that it was too late. And sitting there in my warm car, I watched them cover his body with a sheet, not even six feet away from me while a group of strangers hung their heads in a universal moment of compassion. All I could think was that somewhere his wife and children were enjoying the snow day, with no idea of how their lives were about to change. It was a quiet sobering ride home. I couldn’t get the image out of my head of him lying there on the street.

This morning I’m sitting in my happy warm house surrounded by the smells and sounds of the life I have created, scanning the online news for word of this stranger who left the world yesterday. I finally found him on page three, in a tiny article beside an ad for tires. And I read of how he had jumped to his death from the third floor of the parking deck. Right where I was parked. While I’m spinning around in the deliciousness of my life, another man is standing on a ledge.

Did I pass him in that parking deck? Was he perhaps standing only a few feet away from me?  Could I have somehow made a difference with a kind word or a smile when he needed it most? My life is filled with encounters of people I meet – people I share a powerful moment with. Why couldn’t I have crossed paths with him? Maybe I could have made a difference. Or maybe I had the chance, and didn’t see it. What if he was right there within the sound of my voice?

Good-bye stranger. Rest in peace. I’m sorry I didn’t look up.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Thankful Thursday! What’s Your Word?

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Do You have a Word or Theme for your Life and Business in 2014?

Barbara Hemphill is a Nationally known Productivity Expert, helping people eliminate the physical, digital, and emotional clutter that prevents them for accomplishing their work and enjoying their lives! To book Barbara as your next Keynote Speaker or Seminar/Workshop Presenter: contact Sue Falcone at 1-888-766-3155 or email her at sue@simplysuespeaks.com