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It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

They Aren’t The Reason You Are Miserable

grouchyBeing a motivational speaker feels a lot like being a therapist, only without the degree, knowledge, or credibility. But still I meet people in their places of brokenness. I hear their issues and concerns. And I try to motivate them to see their problems/issues from a different perspective. And one of the consistent things I find in people, is the belief that their problem is someone else.

My boss is  jerk.

They didn’t value my opinion.

He didn’t call.

She’s always running her mouth about something.

He drives me crazy.

She thinks I don’t have anything else to do but wait on her.

They didn’t pay me what I’m worth.

He’s an ungrateful teenager and I’m sick of it.

She thinks she’s better than everybody else.

They didn’t give me my money’s worth.

She just has it out for me.

Nobody will cut me any slack.

Sound familiar?

We all find ourselves victim to this sort of thinking. We don’t live in a bubble. Our lives are filled with people, and many of them are difficult to deal with.  And while we are often valid in our assessment of these people, it doesn’t change the truth – that we can’t fix them, change them, or find perfect people who act exactly as we want.

And they aren’t the problem.

We are.

Yes, I said it. And you’re probably mad. But it’s true.

They aren’t the reason you are miserable.

YOU are.

Life is filled with things circling us that are beyond our control – things happening to us – around us. Things that involve us directly, indirectly, or not really at all.  So much of what is circling around us can’t be controlled. Sure, some of it can be, and we should definitely work to control what we can in our lives. But the only thing you can control in EVERY situation, is how YOU will react to it.

YOU control your reaction.

YOU control your feelings. Well, maybe at first you  can’t control your initial reaction. But after you calm down, you can.

YOU decide what story you are going to write with this data you have been given, even if you are standing in the middle of the colossal mess. YOU still control whether you will allow it to make you miserable.

Unless you have a chemical imbalance, or issues bigger than you (in which case, this does not really apply to you, except that it is YOUR responsibility to get help for it and not use it as an excuse) you can control your reactions, your emotions, and your happiness. Yes, it’s a choice.

YOU are the one who turns one bad moment into a bad hour, and then a bad day, and a bad week, and a bad life. You are the one who instead of letting it go, carries it around with you like a comfort blanket – finding more people to share your issue with – making it the focus of all your time, energy, and conversations.

So, unless you want to stay miserable (which apparently some people do – and actually thrive on it) that’s your choice. Just acknowledge that it’s your fault, not theirs. They aren’t the reason you are miserable. You are.

You can choose happiness. And if you do it enough, one day you’ll wake up, and it just is.

If we let others make us miserable, we always will be.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by “Our State Magazine” as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivational Monday with Kelly Swanson

One Family’s Leap of Courage

Today I will let this video say it all:

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Being a motivational speaker rocks!

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

Why They Love You But Don’t Buy From You: Tips To Sell Dream Products

Just Because They Love You, Doesn’t Mean They’ll Buy You

I heard those words at a recent conference for keynote speakers, and they changed my entire perspective on my business. I have been assuming that an audience who loves you will automatically buy from you.

Not true.

Having them love you and having them buy from you are two very different things.

But first, you do have to get them to love you. They must like you, believe you, and trust you before you can ever hope to get them to buy from you.  And after that, you have to get them to buy from you. That’s what I learned recently – that there are a certain set of skills, things you must say, things you can do, to prompt them to buy.  I’ll keep you posted on those things later. But for now, let’s just focus on the broad strokes.

1. Understand that you have something they want.  I’ve been very guilty of thinking that I’m forcing them to buy my products. That’s not true. People want to take a piece of what I do home with them. I’ve done shows without even bringing my books, and had people in the audience disappointed because they wanted to buy one. So if you’re like me, it’s time to change your thinking. We have something they want. They want to extend the magic you gave them in person. You are not pushing a product, you are offering them more value. So believe in what you are selling and the value it will bring to the buyer. (And if it’s crap, then create something better.)

2. Be excited about what you have to offer.  Now that you know you have something of value – ACT LIKE IT! Get excited about your product. Make sure your language reflects your excitement.

3. Ask for the sale.  Here’s the big part I’ve been missing. I’ve been assuming that if they want it, they’ll ask for it. And most of the time I never even told them there was anything to ask for! I know, I’m a slow learner. Do you have a call to action? Are you asking them to buy your book? Are you asking them to call and book you today? Are you asking them to sign up for your newsletter or like you on Facebook? Take a look at all the language you use and all the touch points you have with your market  (on stage, in a blog, in a sales call, on the web, on Facebook) and see if you have incorporated a call to action. Sometimes it’s as simple as asking for it.

4. Just do it!  Yeah, here’s the hard part. Doing it.  I get it. This is my weakness. I have a stack of things I need to do to grow my business. The problem is finding the time and sitting down and doing it. So I’m moving this top of my list. This is top priority. This requires immediate action. So I’m making a commitment to you and to the universe, that I will start working on this now – as in this week.

So in the spirit of following my own advice, I’m going to ask if you’ve read my book – “Who Hijacked My Fairy Tale?”  It will make you laugh and touch your heart. It’s filled with funny stories and tips to help you hang on to humor when life doesn’t go the way you planned. It’s particularly good for those going through cancer treatments, as it makes people laugh and for a moment forget their pain.  You can order it on Amazon or on the Kindle. I think you can now even rent books on Kindle. How cool is that?

So if you’re looking for a funny light read, or perhaps something that would make a great gift, hop on Amazon today and get your copy while supplies last.  And if you’ve already read it, I would LOVE for you to go to this link and review it for me.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004SBWPUU

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

What if I had just looked up?

Yesterday was a really fun and exciting day for me. I’ll give you more details later about that, but for now they aren’t important. All that matters is that I’m skipping to my car in the parking deck. Okay, so maybe not actually skipping. Let’s get real. I start to skip and things start moving that take hours to settle down. But I was having one of those delicious moments in life when the winter-gray slush-covered world around you bursts into sparkling color and you want to spin and throw your arms around and laugh into the sky like they do in all those stock photos and Metamucil commercials.  I didn’t even mind that the only space I could find to park was on the third floor. I was in my own world, completely oblivious to the people bustling around me.

I’m in a line of drivers exiting the parking deck when I see the flashing lights and yellow tape. And the body. There, blocking our path out of the parking deck and onto the street, was a bundled up man lying face down in the snow covered street. My world turned into slow motion as I watched people run up with blankets and stop as the policeman shook his head and without words indicated that it was too late. And sitting there in my warm car, I watched them cover his body with a sheet, not even six feet away from me while a group of strangers hung their heads in a universal moment of compassion. All I could think was that somewhere his wife and children were enjoying the snow day, with no idea of how their lives were about to change. It was a quiet sobering ride home. I couldn’t get the image out of my head of him lying there on the street.

This morning I’m sitting in my happy warm house surrounded by the smells and sounds of the life I have created, scanning the online news for word of this stranger who left the world yesterday. I finally found him on page three, in a tiny article beside an ad for tires. And I read of how he had jumped to his death from the third floor of the parking deck. Right where I was parked. While I’m spinning around in the deliciousness of my life, another man is standing on a ledge.

Did I pass him in that parking deck? Was he perhaps standing only a few feet away from me?  Could I have somehow made a difference with a kind word or a smile when he needed it most? My life is filled with encounters of people I meet – people I share a powerful moment with. Why couldn’t I have crossed paths with him? Maybe I could have made a difference. Or maybe I had the chance, and didn’t see it. What if he was right there within the sound of my voice?

Good-bye stranger. Rest in peace. I’m sorry I didn’t look up.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.