Millennials see the world in a totally different lens than Baby Boomers, Traditionalists, and even Gen-Xers.
Leaders today need to make a choice – do you continue to lead by executing your solutions and vision, or do you listen to and embrace some of the new ideas presented by your younger Millennial workforce?
May 28, 2009 is a day I’ll never forget. Usually I don’t remember when people die, but this date I’ll remember forever because it was the day my dad died.
My dad lived in one end of Canada and I lived at the other end and I only saw him every two years since the age of 9.
But in 2009, I saw him three times in five weeks. The first time was because I was participating in a trade show for my business and I spent 12 days with him. The longest amount of time I ever spent with him since I was nine.
When he dropped me off at the airport, I thought to myself that I should get a picture with him, but I didn’t. That is definitely one ‘selfie’ moment that I regret. His last words to me were “go get ‘em tiger.”
Little did I know that that would be the last time I would actually get to hear my dad’s voice and those famous words he said to me at the end of every conversation I had with him.
The second time I saw him was ten days later when I got a phone call from my sister saying Dad had a heart attack and we needed to be with him. We did and spent five days with him while he was pretty much in an induced coma. The nurse woke him up long enough so he could see us for about 30 minutes.
The third time was less than two weeks later when we got another call saying we should come back because he wasn’t going to make it through the night. My sister and I flew back and within half an hour of our arrival he passed away.
In five weeks I was there three times and I found it so interesting to spend those 10 days with him and to hear him say one more time “go get ‘em tiger.”
My life as a burn survivor definitely hasn’t been an easy one and I’m constantly reminding myself that life is worth fighting for. That’s what makes this picture of him boxing in the Pan-Am Games so special for me. It’s a reminder to never give up and to keep the inner fight going.
Many of us will use our tragedies to block ourselves and halt our lives, but it’s up to us to see the gift in them and propel our lives forward.
Here’s three tools you can use from my Perserverance Tool Kit:
Visualization Tool – Visualize in your mind a 30-second movie of yourself in your “ideal” life & play this movie in your head whenever you’re feeling stressed.
Musical Tool – play only songs that empower and energize you. Make sure they really energize you to get up and move around. I have one song that I play over and over until I’ve shifted. Some times I play it five times in a row. Whatever it takes to shift from stressed to empowered.
Video Tool – Google “motivational speakers” and watch videos of your favorite ones.
And remember as I do….
Keep your inner fight going and “go get ‘em tiger!”
Kelly Falardeau has gone from Near-death to Success! She went from being an ugly scar-faced burn victim, to being honored by Queen Elizabeth and becoming an Award-winning International Speaker and Best -selling Author. How did she do it? Contact us today at 888-766-3155 and book Kelly to speak at your next event, and you will hear and see the keys to the secrets she shares. #resilience, #empowerment
It is a powerful word when used occasionally to introduce something contrasting with what has already been mentioned, and, according to author Sean Dsouza, it can also become a defensive excuse for not taking responsibility for what happens in our lives!
Have you ever said “I would love to be living my dream, but I don’t have the money and opportunities others do?” Or how about this one, “I have applied everywhere, but everyone says I am overqualified?” This one, which is specific to our industry, “I was the perfect speaker for that event, but they don’t pay speakers anymore.”
Or the classic, “I was the best candidate for the job, but I knew they wouldn’t hire me because of my age.”
What messages do these “buts” say about the person proclaiming it, and how are others supposed to react? Words say what our mindset is feeling, and to keep in this mode is very distracting to others and can become devastation to the success we seek.
Is it possible to have a life with “no buts?” Want to make a change? Here are some ways to begin:
Recognize that you are being defensive and not taking responsibility for your actions so that the ‘buts’ win, both in your words and life.
Take a look at your mindset and see if you are fixed on the failures or learning from the daily growth experiences that failure brings.
Check out who you associate with. Do they allow the ‘buts’ to take over their mindset and words?
Make a choice and decision to change.
Two words I am working at deleting from my own and others’ conversation and mindset are: ‘try’ instead do or do not, and ‘but’ instead use and. Will you join me?