Without question 2020 was an unforgettable year of challenges, unsuspected turns, and sudden surprises. American Professor of Mathematics at Temple University, John Allen Paulos said, “Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” The fact is a lot of the things happening around us are outside of our control, but despite that, you can maintain an ICONIC Mindset.
A person’s ability to thrive in times of uncertainty is how well they can shift their mindset, remain adaptable and flexible and learn how to apply some practical survival techniques. During this podcast episode, John and Calvin discuss the 4 C’s of an ICONIC Mindset. Listen and learn how you can apply these 4 C’s to your daily life and thrive during 2021 and beyond.
0:00:58 – Intro: 4 C’s of an ICONIC Mindset
0:09:32 – Celebrate Innovation
0:15:37 – Commit to Curiosity
0:20:21 – Cultivate Connections
0:28:23 – Choose Optimism
0:35:23 – ICONIC Points
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All of us are in a different place in the workplace and life at this critical time, aren’t we? To connect the dots and see where we are going in our career and personal life moving forward, I have 3 Key Strategic Mindsets for you to consider and incorporate.
One of the latest business buzzwords today is Resiliency, isn’t it? When you hear that word what does it mean to you? Did you know the word resilience comes from the Latin word meaning: “to rebound?”
Being a resilient person is your ability to be a happy, successful person and rebound again after something difficult or bad has happened! Having resilience is shown to others as how quickly you can recover from difficulties and tough situations that you face everyday.
Resilience means knowing how to cope in spite of setbacks, or barriers, or limited resources. Resilience is a measure of how much you want something and how much you are willing, and able, to overcome anything to get it. It has to do with your emotional strength.
Being resilient doesn’t mean that you won’t experience difficulty or distress. People who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives commonly experience emotional pain and stress. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.
While certain factors might make some of you more resilient than others, resilience isn’t necessarily a personality trait that only some people possess. On the contrary, resilience involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that any of you can learn, develop and build on. The ability to learn resilience is one reason research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary.
A great example is the response of many Americans to the Sept. 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and each person’s efforts to rebuild their lives after tragedy. I am sure we will hear many back stories of people’s lives through our covid-19 experience too!
Like building a muscle, increasing your resilience takes time and is intentional. What do you think builds your resilience the most?
Here are some suggestions that have worked in my life and the lives of many others!
Get connected. Building strong, positive relationships with loved ones and friends can provide you with needed support and acceptance in good and bad times. Establish other important connections by volunteering or joining a faith or spiritual community.
Make every day meaningful. Do something that gives you a sense of accomplishment and purpose every day. Set goals to help you look toward the future with meaning.
Learn from experience. Think of how you’ve coped with hardships in the past. Consider the skills and strategies that helped you through difficult times. You might even write about past experiences in a journal to help you identify positive and negative behavior patterns — and guide your future behavior. I have been journaling for a long time and in looking back I can see how it helped me to where I am today!
Remain hopeful. You can’t change the past, but you can always look toward the future. Accepting and even anticipating change makes it easier to adapt and view new challenges with less anxiety.
Take care of yourself. It is true you have to take good care of yourself before you can help others. Here are some ways to do that: participate in activities and hobbies you enjoy, include physical activity in your daily routine, get plenty of sleep, eat a healthy diet, practice stress management and relaxation techniques, such as yoga, meditation, guided imagery, deep breathing or prayer.
Be proactive. Don’t ignore your problems. Instead, figure out what needs to be done, make a plan, and take action. Although it can take time to recover from a major setback, traumatic event or loss, know that your situation can improve if you work at it.
Do you see how important being resilient is to your future? It’s key to how you begin to move forward. These are great personal insights, but how does being resilient help us in our workplace? Did you know that 80% of hiring managers are now including in their interviews not only questions about your detailed measurable skills on your resume but are also including questions to determine your level of resilience?
Want to know what some of those questions are? You may not need to know now, but we never know what lies ahead do we?
Here are the top five questions being asked:
Describe the last time you got really stressed at work.
Describe a time when someone else put pressure on you.
What has been your greatest failure?
What’s your biggest pet peeve at work?
How do you ensure your team doesn’t get overwhelmed?
I represent a resilience expert speaker, Courtney Clark, and she says: “Resilient people manage organizational change better, close more sales, enjoy higher employee engagement, deliver better customer service, and provide decreased turnover.” She is a great expert sharing to many companies and audiences now either Onstage or Virtual Online. More about Courtney: https://bit.ly/2B401zc
How is your resilience level today? Is it different since we have had more time to focus on it during Covid-19? Will it be different after realizing it is being measured in the workplace?
Resilience really goes hand in hand with our next key mindset strategy, which is Choices or some view as decisions! Recently I have heard so many share that in facing their current situations they have no choice! I have found we always have a choice! Choice is the one of the most powerful tools we all have!
We think it’s powerful because of the rewards it avails us, but really what is powerful is the fact that we can make a choice – any choice, good or bad.
What is a choice? It is defined as: “simply the act of picking or deciding between two or more possibilities or options!”
Do you make choices every day? I believe the most important skill we can develop is the capacity to make good choices. What do you think?
John C. Maxwell says:
“Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.”
Making your own choices about the things you do is very important because it gives your life meaning. Making choices about what is important to you helps you be more independent and in charge of your life.
The key is to make good choices isn’t it? Our choices can become our decisions for life! We don’t always make good ones do we?
Did you know we make roughly 35,000 choices a day, 227 of them on food alone, according to researchers at Cornell University. Our brains make decisions up to 10 seconds before we consciously realize it. Some choices are automatic, aren’t they? What are some of your automatic ones?
I like to keep things simple with no drama and less stress in my life, how about you? In looking at how to make good choices and decisions I have found these 3 Easy Simple Steps work!
Trust your instincts- they are better than you think
Define the choice, the outcome, and the options-quickly
Don’t take a long time
Once you have made your choice stick with it. Don’t give yourself the option of having back-up plans. That can get you stuck and you end up not making the good choice. Also delays you actually making the decision to choose and take action!
Since this is an important skill do you think hiring managers recognize it as important in a job interview? They certainly do, and here are The Top Three Questions they ask:
How do you make decisions? Be able to explain to yourself and others how you make them.
Describe the process you typically follow to make a decision about a plan of action.
How will you decide whether to accept a job offer should I offer you a job that you think is a good match for your skills and preferred workplace?
Making good choices and decisions brings value. Good decision making is an essential skill. There is a tremendous need for good decision makers in today’s world. How do you rate yourself?
I saved the most important key mindset strategy till last! It is Positivity. Have you taken the “Strengths Finder 2.0” assessment? You can find the book online, and there is an access code contained in it so you can do it online.
Once you complete the assessment a printout of your top 5 strengths will be available for you. Many recruiters, hiring managers, and companies are requiring you to take it, and also many people are including their strengths on their LinkedIn profiles.
I am glad this has become more important than ever. I know focusing on our strengths first versus dwelling on our weaknesses helps us to stay positive.
A positive mindset is an attitude someone has who “expects” good and desired results. The power of positivity is immense, and it can help you convert that energy into reality.
Being positive is how all these three key strategic mindsets work together! Allowing negative thoughts to dominate your mind, will certainly be a barrier to developing a strong resilience and being able to rebound from any adversity you face. You will not be able to see the great choices and decisions you can make without having a positive mindset in place.
Positive thinking doesn’t mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life’s tragic and bad situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach them in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst.
Don’t you like being around positive people? Great leaders are always positive because they know that it helps them, and their teams, be more productive and reach their goals. Managers (at every level) who want to excel choose to adopt a positive attitude.
In today’s world many people ask how can you stay positive? It goes back to choices! We can decide to be positive or negative, can’t we?
One of my speakers, Will Bowen is a top proponent in being positive, and even shows us how to be complaint free! He shares: “Your thoughts create your life and your words indicate what you are thinking!” More about Will see https://bit.ly/2YCBF7R
So what does it take to have a Positive Mindset, and can or should everyone have one?
One of the biggest advantages to having a positive mindset is how much it affects our health! John Hopkins University of Medicine shares that a positive mindset can give you:
Longer life span
Improved immune system
Faster recovery from surgery
Increased resistance to the common cold
Better resiliency in coping with life
Lower risk of heart disease
Increased physical well-being
Better psychological health
WOW, isn’t that something we all need and want? So if that is true how do we develop and maintain a positive mindset and will it help us at work?
Since one of my top strengths is Positivity, I have found these 5 Tips for Achieving and Maintaining a Positive Mindset by Kevin Leyes in Thrive Global inspired me to share my thoughts:https://bit.ly/2zvYUI6
Surround Yourself With Positive People- both in person and on Social Media.
Get Close To Nature- get out and enjoy our beautiful world.
Strive To Improve And Maintain A Positive Attitude- it takes work and you have to be intentional.
Go On- no matter what! There is life after every experience we go through!
Focus On Your Dreams And Goals- never lose sight of them no matter your age or stage!
These will take work! But the benefits are so worth it! Question for you- are you a positive person? Why or Why Not?Is being positive really something hiring managers are looking at in an interview, or do you need it in running your company?
Yes, they are, and today we need it more than ever! Here are the Top 3 Questions you may encounter the next time you are job interviewing!
There is a half glass of water in front of you. Is it half-empty or half-full?
If you dine at some cafe and the waiter pour a cup of hot coffee on you. How will you react?
If you need some assistance from your coworker but she/he refuses on the spot. What will be your response?
I hope you have a Remarkable Journey learning about the power you have in being a resilient person, one who makes good choices, and being positive even when it looks like a negative world all around you! These mindsets will led us to move forward at a faster pace that we ever thought possible!
Sue Falcone is the Founder and CEO of Remarkable! A Speakers Bureau. She believes in using her expertise to help others as well as serving her clients and the speakers and music artists she represents. She has been honored by the Triad Business Journal as an “Outstanding Women in Business,” Volunter of the Year from Guilford Merchants Association and Business High Point Chamber of Commerce, and was recently nominated as Small Business of the Year of Business High Point Chamber of Commerce. She is involved in mentoring others and is the Director of her Nonprofit, Lifetree Cafe. See more about Sue: https://bit.ly/2BbWRt2
The morning air is crisp, not yet cool. The sun’s rays reach through the majestic trees, an invitation to the great day ahead. The bay glistens in the background. It’s beautiful! The involuntary grin deeply creases my face. I say my prayers. I’m happy!
Some people go to therapists. Some meditate. Others search daily for that elusive inner peace. For me it’s morning’s freshness and my bicycle at 6am, cruising through the neighborhood. Morning is the gift we’re all given. The bicycle is the gift I give myself.
I’ve been riding bicycles all my life. Love it! I remember my first lessons with training wheels, my first lesson without them. I remember crying when I realized my dad was not behind me holding me up. Then I promptly fell.
Most mornings in good weather, sometimes in not so good weather, I raise the garage door and leave the house for a 75-minute ride through the neighborhood. It’s peaceful. Quiet. There are hardly any cars, dogs, or people; just me, the morning and the promising day ahead.
“The Bicycle Man” they call me. I’ve been called worse.
There are three regular riders on the circuit as I call it, in their colorful bike outfits. They ride as a group always with a bright “good morning” for me. There are some regular walkers offering big smiles while soaking up that morning promise. “Good mornings” abound! Like warm coffee on a cold morning the day flows.
Peaceful solitude only lasts so long. After the 7 o’clock hour the cars, school buses, and people start to flow. I make my way back to our home.
The newness of another day!
Thom Gossom Jr. defied all odds, and as a sought-after Keynote Speaker is on a mission to help others do the same! Thom has come full circle in life; from a walk-on determined athlete in challenging times, using the education he received to become a successful Corporate America leader, succeeding as an Award-winning Hollywood Actor, becoming a best-selling author and film producer, owning his own company-Best Gurl Inc., a Communications Firm, being a sought after Keynote Speaker, serving as the Chair of the Auburn University Foundation Board, to now inspiring, motivating, educating and entertaining audiences all over the globe. To have Thom Gossom Jr. at your next event, contact us at 888-766-3155 today.
Do you hear people state a BIG goal that makes you inwardly (or outwardly) just shake your head in disbelief? As in, you have about as much chance of accomplishing that as a New Years resolution (which has about 8% chance of being accomplished on average).
And yet, people do accomplish goals, they even accomplish BIG goals that they (and often everyone else) once thought were impossible!
• 7 and 8 Figure Business Growth at Record Speed
• Owning 200 Investment Property Homes
• 1st Female NFL Coach and Hall of Fame
• Feeding 10’s of Thousands of People
• Winning the Nobel Prize
• Climbing Mount Kilimanjaro with No Arms and No Legs (Kyle Maynard)
Leaving your BIG Goals to Chance risks having them downsized or discarded! Reliably Achieve BIG Goals Faster from these 5 Steps! 5 Steps to Reliably Achieve BIG Goals Faster!
The Power of Vision.
“Without Vision the Past Predicts the Future.”
The future is predictable without a Vision. A Vision uses your Belief System to creates new access to something greater. A Vision is your “come from” place and communicates your BOLD Stand. It’s the secret weapon that pulls you through tough times and boosts you to a higher place.
Having only a resource and task focus develops survival/safety concerns which bring survival results and create interactions of force, competition, self-interest and disconnection. Vision focus develops aliveness, power, collaboration, community and connection, all of which reliably drive you higher.
Don’t Go it Alone.
Individually, we are self-limiting, less accountable and less reliable. One of my BIG successful clients says: “we have that little voice in our head that doesn’t want us to be anything.” When we are aware of others knowing and supporting what we are up to, or being aware that others expect our greatness, it pulls us higher and more reliably forward. The best version of ourselves comes when we contribute to others and others contribute to us.
Performance on Purpose.
“If you’re just performing to lifeless goals, you’ll be lifeless about achieving them.”
The greatest version of you, the version that has and can achieve the impossible, comes from connecting to a purpose (rooted in your Vision) that moves you. Performance on Purpose comes from seeing your life as a movie where you are the hero having victory over undesirable forces, and where you are helping to free others from those undesirable forces.
A goal driven by purpose has a much higher reliability to be achieved.
Also, we must continuously renew ourselves with our purpose so we can maintain performance at our extraordinary personal best.
“Businesses that Plan Together Pull Together.”
Create a unified Roadmap of Prioritized Goals, Plan, Action. Clarity catapults results.
It’s only a lofty dream until you know the steps for achieving it.
Often, in the patterns and chaos of daily doing, we miss the BIG pieces unless we have the Vision, Goals, Plan, Action roadmap.
Set “Control Points” So You Maintain Progress.
Communicate frequently at specific, committed times. Committed communication greatly increases Reliably Achieving BIG Goals Faster.
Develop and Commit to an Escalation process when things go off track. Have a “By When” date on when you will complete something.
Define and Accept an accountability process and have discipline to hold yourself -and accept having others- hold you to it.
Don’t leave your BIG Goals to chance. Schedule a 15 minutes conversation today!
Carl Loop says the most amazing thing about what he does is to help people “See the Unseen” to LEAP opportunities. His various award-winning corporate, entrepreneurial, creative, technical and leadership background and experiences enable him to bring a new perspective so you see the unseen to “Achieve The LEAP.”
Carl is passionate about helping people “Achieve The LEAP.” To date, he has helped businesses profit by 10’s of Millions of dollars…and counting! When Carl was very young, he could jump really far, and became a bit of a celebrity in schoolyard competitions. People started calling Carl “Leaping Loop” and it has stuck ever since! Call 888-766-3155 to book Carl for your next event!
Is it possible to love change and welcome it into our lives?
Recently while attending a company’s annual conference where major technology change was being presented; I knew it was going to be interesting to see how the multi-generations represented would react.
As the changes were announced you could feel the fear, doubt, and tension spread throughout the room! In looking at their expressions for some it seemed like the end of business as usual and it was overwhelming to see where the company was headed.
A large number of the attendees had been there from the beginning of the company and personally knew the founders; and I could imagine they were wondering: “is this what they would have wanted?”
Then others were excited and easily willing to embrace the changes. They were the ones texting on the hashtag set up, sharing this would be a great future for everyone!
As the presentation continued I looked around and many were in shock and really didn’t know what to feel or think. They knew change was needed; but were afraid they could not master the skills it would take to succeed in this new world!
This is not new is it? Change is happening all over our workplaces! I know you are either going to be facing it soon, are in the midst of it now, or you have been through it and will probably have to experience it again. This is good, right?
Change is just like anything else we face, isn’t it? It all starts with our mindset and attitude! That is where change begins and where the progress on our journey is formed!
One of our Remarkable Speakers, Dean Lindsay
shares: “Change is inevitable, Progress is a choice!”
In looking at the long term journey here are three steps to help you make change easier:
Choose to face your change! The longer you put this off the harder it will be to take the next steps to reach progress!
Secure all the complete information of what the change entails so that you can overcome the doubt, fear, and the barriers that could stand in your way, if you let them.This includes asking questions and seeking expert advice to have a complete understanding of how to move to the final step in this process.
Make plans and goals of how to successfully handle the changes that are going to move you to success!These need to be written down and a commitment made to do what it will take to succeed and not just quit and say “I Can’t!”
Can you say with me “I love change?”The longer you delay saying those words the longer the time it will take you to progress on your journey; as there is no other way to avoid the inevitable!
Sue Falcone is the CEO of Remarkable! A Speakers Bureau
and was recently named an “Outstanding Women in Business”
by the Triad Business Journal of North Carolina. For more see About Us.
A slap in the face on a freezing winter morning from a cold, wet, and smelly cow’s tail: that was my daily greeting from the first of more than 200 cows that needed to be milked.
I worked on my family’s dairy farm through high school and college, but the twice-a-day milking routine never came easy for me. Summers were hot, and winter mornings at 3 a.m. were often below freezing.
The workers stood in a pit that placed the cows at chest level.
It felt like daily combat, with the cows definitely having the advantage. My arms and hands were targets for quick kicks, and my face was the object of nonstop tail swats.
The longtime veterans of the dairy didn’t seem to have the difficulties I did in getting the cows’ cooperation.
One particularly frustrating morning I was given some advice that at the time I laughed at, but I later realized was actually quite profound.
“Hardy, you have to learn to think like the cows if you want their cooperation.”
Organizations seeking to improve relationships with clients, members, board members, volunteers, donors, and sponsors can benefit from this dairy barn wisdom.
It’s easy to make the mistake of assuming we know what others want.
Although I thought that all the cows needed was to be fed and milked, they obviously wanted a different approach to the task at hand.
Often we get so focused on the work to be done, we don’t take the time to better understand either those we help or those who help us. As a result, collaboration and support may be less than desired.
Reduce resistance and increase cooperation by actively soliciting and listening to the opinions of those you are trying to engage.
Whether it’s clients, members, board members, volunteers, donors, or sponsors, who is it you need to think more like?
Speaker Hardy Smith is your Go-to Resource who works with NonProfits and Associations that want an Ongoing Culture of Performance. Organizations across America have benefited from Hardy’s 30-plus years of experience working in the high-performance world of NASCAR racing. Hardy is a published Author for BoardSource, Guidestar, NONPROFIT BUSINESS ADVISOR, Nonprofit World, and FSAE Source Magazine. Call 888-766-3155 today to book Hardy for your next event!
Among the top characteristics that make a great professional speaker is the ability to tell a good story. Think about some of the best speeches you’ve ever heard, what sets them apart? The numbers and statistics? The lesson? Probably not.
Very likely, the thing that stands out in your mind after a memorable speaker’s presentation is a great story or two. The speaker has the ability to create lasting images in your mind. Visually painting a picture by connecting the story to the message drives home the focal point and makes a terrific impression on the audience.
Telling a story invites the audience in. It makes them comfortable, both with the speaker and the message. Of all the tools in a speaker’s toolkit, it is by far one of the most powerful.
Great speakers weave life experiences throughout their message, creating a rapport with the audience, and giving life to the topic. Stories help the audience relate and creates a message that will live on long after the speech is over. That’s success through great story telling.
Our speakers here at Simply Sue Speaks! Global Booking Agency have the ability to do just that – tell a great story. It’s part of their DNA and makes for a riveting presentation with some serious #WOWfactor!
Whether you are looking for an inspiring and entertaining keynote speaker, engaging media personality, interactive conference speaker, mesmerizing seminar presenter, critical thinking corporate trainer, forward moving executive coach, entertainer that will amaze you with their talent, content driven commencement speaker, best-selling author that captivates your audience, or a challenging retreat speaker, we will match you with the perfect speaker that will tailor their presentations to your needs.
Whatever the occasion or topic, with our award-winning speakers, you can be sure that the stories will be memorable and unforgettable; and you will be seen as a “rock star” for choosing our agency to bring a #WOWfactor experience to your audiences! Less stress guaranteed for you too!
We are honored to earn your business and look forward to serving you soon! Contact us today we are ready to meet your needs!
Founder and CEO
Simply Sue Speaks Global Booking Agency
It is a powerful word when used occasionally to introduce something contrasting with what has already been mentioned, and, according to author Sean Dsouza, it can also become a defensive excuse for not taking responsibility for what happens in our lives!
Have you ever said “I would love to be living my dream, but I don’t have the money and opportunities others do?” Or how about this one, “I have applied everywhere, but everyone says I am overqualified?” This one, which is specific to my industry, “I was the perfect speaker for that event, but they don’t pay speakers anymore.”
Or the classic, “I was the best candidate for the job, but I knew they wouldn’t hire me because of my age.”
What messages do these “buts” say about the person proclaiming it, and how are others supposed to react? Words say what our mindset is feeling, and to keep in this mode is very distracting to others and can become devastation to the success we seek.
Is it possible to have a life with “no buts?” Want to make a change? Here are some ways to begin:
Recognize that you are being defensive and not taking responsibility for your actions so that the ‘buts’ win, both in your words and life.
Take a look at your mindset and see if you are fixed on the failures or learning from the daily growth experiences that failure brings.
Check out who you associate with. Do they allow the ‘buts’ to take over their mindset and words?
Make a choice and decision to change.
Two words I work at deleting from my own and others’ conversation and mindset are: ‘try’ instead do or do not, ‘but’ instead use and. Will you join me?
Founder and CEO
Simply Sue Speaks Global Booking Agency
By now, many of us know the benefits of being thankful and having an attitude of gratitude. Studies show that being grateful is linked to increased satisfaction, motivation and energy. Practicing gratitude involves finding and noticing things in our lives for which we are grateful.
While I am a big fan of a being grateful, I’d like to share a concept that is similar but very different. What I am suggesting here is that we give thanks for things for which we do not necessarily feel grateful.
One of my favorite movies is “Facing the Giants”. In it, a losing high school football coach tells his underdog team that they will do their best in all areas of their lives and whether they win or lose they are going to give thanks and praise.
Why would any coach want to give thanks and praise after losing a game? Maybe, because it works?
They didn’t stop at giving thanks. Giving thanks actually inspired and motivated them to do what they needed to do to change their situation. They faced their fears.
The coach pushed them even more and the team worked even harder to get what they wanted. In the end, when it really mattered, they won.
I know it’s just a movie, but I have seen this play out in my own life as well.
I am generally a naturally positive person. I see the glass half full. I look on the bright side of things. I don’t try to be this way, I just am.
So when I found myself making a list of things that made me angry and resentful I knew I needed to do something about it. Rather than shifting my attention to the good things going on in my life, I stayed focused on this list.
As I read each item on the list, I said “Thank you.” I did not feel thankful, nor did I have a reason to be thankful. I just said “Thank you”.
I was amazed at how quickly my mood shifted. I felt like I had discovered a miracle cure.
What I realized later was that I was tapping into something I know to be true. That is, that all things work for good even when we don’t understand them. It is when we trust this concept and just say “thank you” that we align ourselves with a powerful force that will get us through our seemingly negative situation.
Saying “thank you” doesn’t mean we become complacent and accept our situations as they are. It’s about acknowledging our situations as they are now, facing our fears and trusting that there is a reason that is somehow, someway in our best interest.
The change of heart that can be experienced by doing this is amazing! It really is a miracle.
It will fill you up and provide the inspiration needed to move you forward. In order for this strategy to work successfully, one must believe and have faith in it.
I invite you to give it a try. Share your comments and let us know how it worked for you.
Give thanks and be well,
Lucy Wellmaker is a Board Certified Coach helping others with work-life balance, discovering deeper meaning and living more on purpose. For information visit LucyWellmaker.com or call 336-540-0733.
Do you allow negative thoughts to feed your feelings about others? Since most of what we hear is not always positive, it is a choice to decide to believe the best and not the worst of every person and situation, isn’t it?
Is this hard to do? In some situations it is easier than others, but we must be on guard to not let the negative thoughts pop up instead of valuing and caring for others! How about when you are driving and others are not as careful as they should be? Does ‘road rage’ automatically set in? Do you ever stop to think about what might be causing the person to drive like they are?
This is an easier one for me to handle, but for some I have seen this rob them of their joy, peace, and concern for others, and whenever they get in their car they expect to see bad driving and it becomes a way of life as to how they let their feelings react to it. Funny thing is, the other driver didn’t even know the impact they had, we let them control our feelings and emotions willingly. In doing so, we not only robbed ourselves but we also brought others that are around us into the same mindset as well!
What about those that have intentionally hurt your business, family, and others? This is really pushing the choice of finding and believing the best in a person because we are focused on what they did, not on the why, aren’t we? I have not always been perfect at handling situations that involve confrontation and not letting my feelings explode! How about you?
However, I have finally realized, thanks to a great book by Joyce Meyer, called “Living Beyond Your Feelings” to truly live a purpose driven life and be successful and happy, I have to have a plan to not let my emotions and feelings run wild, and to face each person and situation looking for and believing the best and not the worse. This also includes seeing and believing the best of yourself too! No more negative talk about yourself, as this is not helping you see and believe the best in others!
Joyce shared, a great way to get in the mindset of thinking this new way is when you feel those emotions and feelings of negativity start to build is to immediately think of things that make you happy. Flip your mind off the negative feelings onto something that changes your attitude and the situation. It won’t take long to see that you would rather live in positive thoughts about others and yourself than live in the negatives. You never know when you start looking for and believing the best in others it not only changes your life, but it could change their life too!
Have a great week believing the best in yourself and every person, and love to hear how it works for you!