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Own Your Power…Own Your Life…Here’s How

I work with so many bright, hard-working, successful women who are consistently hitting “ceilings,” both internally and externally. When the cause is not addressed, these limiting beliefs often stop them from realizing their full potential.

The great news is that when they implement these powerful strategies, my clients consistently project their SPARKLE 2.0 version; confident and present. They can then effectively advocate for themselves and other women. This consistently happens when I’ve introduced these concepts to thousands of women, including those in male-dominated professions, such as the energy, legal, financial, transportation and advertising industries.

I’ve identified Six Sassy Steps to Shatter Your Inner and Outer Glass Ceiling and help you own your power, your passion, your voice in a way you’ve always desired but never dreamed possible.

Shatter Your Inner Glass Ceiling

1) You’ve Got To Name It To Claim It

Unless you can identify the limiting beliefs/behaviors that prevent you from reaching the level of success you crave, you can’t do anything about it. One of mine, hands down, is second-guessing myself. Do you second-guess yourself? Yes? No? Aren’t sure?

It’s important to be an investigator in your own life and look at the origins of where your beliefs come from. For me, it was crystal clear. One day my Dad said, “Girlfriend you’re being a little too strong.” Yikes! He could’ve used a dozen different adjectives that wouldn’t have affected me at all. But as a little girl being told that being strong was bad, it slayed me.

I started to beige myself out. That’s when I began to distrust myself. Because I thought I was too much, second-guessing became my default mode. This is not about vilifying anyone. My Dad was an extraordinary role model for me. Rather it’s an example of why it’s so important to identify the origin of our beliefs. It wasn’t until years later that I made the connection between second-guessing myself and my desire not to upset those around me.

2) Address Your Triggers Or They Will Control You

I have a client that when she says, “That’s a fee I feel comfortable with,” I mimic an EMS siren and say, “Emergency approaching!” We laugh because it means she’s about to give away her services for much less than the market will bear. Her statement goes on her trigger list because it’s an indicator she’s in danger of self-sabotaging her success. Our new goal is for her to feel deliciously uncomfortable in service of what makes her SPARKLE.

I have clients create an Owner’s Manual that list their top 10 triggers. This works because when they can identify their mental, emotional and physical Achilles heel they have a better chance of slowing down the film, and advocating for themselves.

Here are a few examples:

•   A potential client saying, “You’re the only I can turn to right now.”

•   Being given conflicting messages from your boss regarding your performance.

•   Your stomach feels like it’s having a heart attack.

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3) Practice Makes Progress

Perfection is an illusion that will keep you binging on Haagen Dazs, beating yourself up and lolling in your nightgown until 5pm. Give it up. It’s been said it takes 21 days to create a new habit and 90 days for the habit to become second nature. Expect and accept some setbacks before implementing new thoughts and behaviors. Celebrate each victory, big and small.

Shatter Your Outer Glass Ceiling

4) Move From Criticism To Curiosity

My relationship with food and my body transformed 30 years ago – not overnight and not perfectly. I still participate in recreational eating and chocolate therapy. However, this all changed in the middle of an attack from my Itty-Bitty-Committee (IBC), the inner critic in my head I call Slash. Yup, I gave her a name, outfit, and accessories to match. Instead, I heard a kind voice, beckoning me to be curious and ask why. This shift from criticism to curiosity changed my life and it can change yours. When you hit an Ouch! moment when your Slash starts yammering away, you have an extraordinary opportunity. You can stop, breathe, and send love to the part of you that is hurting and say, “Sweetheart what can I learn? What can I get curious about? How can I grow?” It won’t be an overnight process, but if you commit to learning, to be curious and to be kind to yourself, this practice will transform your life.

5) Make Sure Your Overall Presentation Is In Alignment With What You Want

This is a big one. The bottom line is how you present yourself in terms of word choices, tone, body language and physical presentation is everything. If one is incongruent, there will be a disconnect in how you’re perceived. This isn’t about checking your true self at the door but about making sure all aspects of your presentation align with your goals.

A senior-level client was frustrated she wasn’t getting the respect she deserved. We discussed many of her sentences ended with an upward inflection, sending a message that she questioned her own expertise. Also, her appearance didn’t reflect her stature. The solution?

We worked on speaking in statements rather than questions and revamped her wardrobe to one that was feminine, upscale and professional. People took notice very quickly. Her male boss, who genuinely believed in her, but in the wake of the “#MeToo movement,” had felt uneasy discussing these issues. It turns out that nothing keeping her back had anything to do with her competence, but it had everything to do with not properly representing her organization’s brand along with her own authority. Once we corrected these two areas, she felt a new confidence.

6) Actively Advocate For Yourself And For Other Women

The more women support each other, the quicker we can shatter both the inner and outer glass ceiling that is ever-present.

It’s simple; help each other. Help others to help you. Make requests, not demands. Don’t apologize. Be specific with what you desire, whether it’s a board invitation, being included in a meeting, or working on a project. Don’t make it a fortress of females, include men – they want to help you too.

We must commit to shifting our mindset as well as our methodology. When we do that, we change the conversations and prevailing perceptions. The more women own their voice and power the greater impact we’ll have in the world. And everyone wins!

How about you? Looking to energize, engage and elevate the women on your team or organization to shatter their inner and outer glass ceiling? Lois knows these Six Sassy steps really work!

Looking for a speaker who will instill in your audience the “Courage to Sparkle” and  “create a life that lights you up” in this ever changing world?Lois uses humor, energy and science to support companies and individuals to outwit their obstacles, live lusciously and thrive professionally. Lois Barth Delivers Powerful Solutions in a Playful Way! Book Lois today: https://bit.ly/2K4ljhx

3 Key Secrets to Living the Life You Want!

livethelifeDo you know the 3 Key Secrets to living the life you want? Take a minute, challenge yourself, and see what you come up with!  I would love to hear your comments!

Recently I was asked to speak to an awesome group of high school sophomores and juniors who were graduating from a 2 year program of service sponsored by their local Chamber of Commerce! They had learned and demonstrated great skills and abilities, and had served their community well! My outcome was to motivate them into their successful futures and help them continue this experience of service into their daily lives, in 30 minutes or less!

Normally I am booking other speakers instead of myself;  but this was an honor and a joy to do! I had met a lot of these students, and it would help keep me connected to what I promote; and be a great experience of seeing how the 6 Generations in the Workplace communicate with each other!

I knew I had just seconds to get them involved. My first words were to give them permission to Tweet, Instagram, Facebook, Vine, Snapchat, and take notes on any device they chose!  They agreed to keep their ring tones down, so I wouldn’t want to stop and listen to their music!

I gave them the challenge as I did to you, to share what they thought the 3 key secrets are!  They had great points and ended up complimenting what I had in mind all along!

Here are the what we found are the 3 Key Secrets to living the life you want, and how to live them out loud every day!

  1. Know Who You Are- I’m talking about the “real” you when no one is looking! This is key because it will help you avoid comparing yourself to others, and help you develop your strengths rather than wasting time working to improve your weaknesses! How do you know the “real” you? By accepting, loving, and believing in yourself without wishing to be someone else. Learn to not let your “imperfections” (and we all have them) become your identity! Learn to be comfortable in your own skin and in turn it will help others be comfortable with you and overlook everything else!
  2. Have a Positive Attitude- Your mind is a funny thing, isn’t it? What you put in it is what you become. Having a positive attitude is a choice, and begins the moment you wake up each day! How is it possible to keep a positive attitude in this negative world? It’s important to choose the right things to read, what you view on TV and YouTube, and how you see yourself as a valuable person. Fear, doubt, worry, and discouragement are all around, but positive information and faith will guide you in overcoming the negative and face life with a smile and seek solutions and not excuses!
  3. Choose Carefully Who You Surround Yourself With- Jim Rohn says: “You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”  If this is true, isn’t it worth making sure you make the right choices of whom you spend your time with? Right now as you read this think of the 5 people you spend the most time with! Are they positive and uplifting? Do they know who “they” are? Do they build you and others up, not down? Is it possible you might need to make some changes?

See how these fit together in the daily adventure of life? To have a life you want means to share, care, volunteer, and serve. It’s not about you at all! You are already unique and special, you need to keep focused on knowing and living who you really are, keeping a positive attitude, and surrounding yourself with the right people!

Amazingly I saw these students and others writing down what I was sharing, and afterwards they were still talking more about their how’s and what they planned to do in their lives! I saw the future of our nation, future leaders, and future families represented there, and I am so thankful their parents, friends, and community leaders got to see it too!

I left there with a renewed heart, mind, body, and soul, ready to face my world of choices!  Are you ready to begin a new day of living your life out loud knowing the 3 Key Secrets that will make it happen?

Sue Falcone
Sue Falcone

 

Weekly #WOWfactor-Is Your Life HACKED?

hackedRecently I experienced a major “invasion” of my website, email, and my life! All of a sudden when you came to this site you were connected with a foreign company! Our staff did not want to believe with all the security measures we have both here on the site and on all my devices this could happen! But it did! It was not an easy fix, but with the dedication of Assistant, Angela McPherson, of  www.noteworthynetchicks.biz ,  we were back up within two days!  No one realizes until it happens to you what you have to do correct it, and protect it from happening again!

As I was walking through this journey and receiving calls and emails asking what was going on, all I could think of was: “how will this affect the awesome professionals I represent here in being able to promote, market and book them for events?”  This business is not based on me; but on You, the ones who need the expertise of my speakers and presenters, and for our professionals to be “heard and seen” so they can do what they do best!  All kinds of thoughts raced through my mind!

After the initial panic set in, I realized I had a choice! I could let this “hack” into my entire life and lose the edge that has made this business successful, or I could use this experience as a motivation to become better and stronger in this industry and also help other face the same things in their lives as well!

Guess which one I chose? I attacked my agenda with a new fueled fury! I was not going to let defeat my attitude and want to run away and hide! I let people know what was going on, and yes prayers went up by many for the solution to be handled quickly!

Once the site was back up and running I saw this affirmation on LinkedIn, and I realized what had happened! My friend, Melanie Benson Strick shared this:

 “#Success Tip: If you are a problem solver, you’ll always have problems to solve. Become a solution generator.”

Today I ask you, are you letting your life, business, and world be “hacked” by all the problems that come up; or are you resolved to become a “solution generator” and live a life of fulfilled purpose and plan? Today is the right time to make a choice, and get to work!

Have a great day!

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Owner: “Simply” Sue Speaks! Former AT&T Executive, speaker, author, recognized Entrepreneurship, Small Business, Sales & Marketing Expert. Her professionals bring the “WOW” factor to your next event. Click on Contact on this site, it’s easy to book great talent here!