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The 3 Key Strategic Mindsets for Moving Forward!

All of us are in a different place in the workplace and life at this critical time, aren’t we? To connect the dots and see where we are going in our career and personal life moving forward, I have 3 Key Strategic Mindsets for you to consider and incorporate.

One of the latest business buzzwords today is Resiliency, isn’t it? When you hear that word what does it mean to you? Did you know the word resilience comes from the Latin word meaning: “to rebound?” 

Being a resilient person is your ability to be a happy, successful person and rebound again after something difficult or bad has happened! Having resilience is shown to others as how quickly you can recover from difficulties and tough situations that you face everyday.

Resilience means knowing how to cope in spite of setbacks, or barriers, or limited resources. Resilience is a measure of how much you want something and how much you are willing, and able, to overcome anything to get it. It has to do with your emotional strength. 

Being resilient doesn’t mean that you won’t experience difficulty or distress. People who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives commonly experience emotional pain and stress. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.

While certain factors might make some of you more resilient than others, resilience isn’t necessarily a personality trait that only some people possess. On the contrary, resilience involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that any of you can learn, develop and build on. The ability to learn resilience is one reason research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. 

 A great example is the response of many Americans to the Sept. 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and each person’s efforts to rebuild their lives after tragedy. I am sure we will hear many back stories of people’s lives through our covid-19 experience too! 

Like building a muscle, increasing your resilience takes time and is intentional. What do you think builds your resilience the most? 

Here are some suggestions that have worked in my life and the lives of many others! 

Get connected. Building strong, positive relationships with loved ones and friends can provide you with needed support and acceptance in good and bad times. Establish other important connections by volunteering or joining a faith or spiritual community.

Make every day meaningful. Do something that gives you a sense of accomplishment and purpose every day. Set goals to help you look toward the future with meaning.

Learn from experience. Think of how you’ve coped with hardships in the past. Consider the skills and strategies that helped you through difficult times. You might even write about past experiences in a journal to help you identify positive and negative behavior patterns — and guide your future behavior. I have been journaling for a long time and in looking back I can see how it helped me to where I am today!

Remain hopeful. You can’t change the past, but you can always look toward the future. Accepting and even anticipating change makes it easier to adapt and view new challenges with less anxiety.

Take care of yourself. It is true you have to take good care of yourself before you can help others. Here are some ways to do that: participate in activities and hobbies you enjoy, include physical activity in your daily routine, get plenty of sleep, eat a healthy diet, practice stress management and relaxation techniques, such as yoga, meditation, guided imagery, deep breathing or prayer.

Be proactive. Don’t ignore your problems. Instead, figure out what needs to be done, make a plan, and take action. Although it can take time to recover from a major setback, traumatic event or loss, know that your situation can improve if you work at it.

Do you see how important being resilient is to your future?  It’s key to how you begin to move forward. These are great personal insights, but how does being resilient help us in our workplace? Did you know that 80% of hiring managers are now including in their interviews not only questions about your detailed measurable skills on your resume but are also including questions to determine your level of resilience? 

Want to know what some of those questions are? You may not need to know now, but we never know what lies ahead do we? 

 Here are the top five questions being asked:

  • Describe the last time you got really stressed at work.
  • Describe a time when someone else put pressure on you.
  • What has been your greatest failure?
  • What’s your biggest pet peeve at work?
  • How do you ensure your team doesn’t get overwhelmed?

I represent a resilience expert speaker, Courtney Clark, and she says:  “Resilient people manage organizational change better, close more sales, enjoy higher employee engagement, deliver better customer service, and provide decreased turnover.”  She is a great expert sharing to many companies and audiences now either Onstage or Virtual Online.  More about Courtney: https://bit.ly/2B401zc

How is your resilience level today? Is it different since we have had more time to focus on it during Covid-19?  Will it be different after realizing it is being measured in the workplace? 

Resilience really goes hand in hand with our next key mindset strategy, which is Choices or some view as decisions! Recently I have heard so many share that in facing their current situations they have no choice! I have found we always have a choice!  Choice is the one of the most powerful tools we all have!     

We think it’s powerful because of the rewards it avails us, but really what is powerful is the fact that we can make a choice – any choice, good or bad.

What is a choice? It is defined as: “simply the act of picking or deciding between two or more possibilities or options!” 

Do you make choices every day? I believe the most important skill we can develop is the capacity to make good choices. What do you think? 

John C. Maxwell says: 

“Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.” 

Making your own choices about the things you do is very important because it gives your life meaning. Making choices about what is important to you helps you be more independent and in charge of your life.

The key is to make good choices isn’t it? Our choices can become our decisions for life! We don’t always make good ones do we?

Did you know we make roughly 35,000 choices a day, 227 of them on food alone, according to researchers at Cornell University. Our brains make decisions up to 10 seconds before we consciously realize it. Some choices are automatic, aren’t they? What are some of your automatic ones? 

I like to keep things simple with no drama and less stress in my life, how about you? In looking at how to make good choices and decisions I have found these 3 Easy Simple Steps work!  

  1. Trust your instincts- they are better than you think
  2. Define the choice, the outcome, and the options-quickly
  3. Don’t take a long time

Once you have made your choice stick with it. Don’t give yourself the option of having back-up plans. That can get you stuck and you end up not making the good choice. Also delays you actually making the decision to choose and take action!

Since this is an important skill do you think hiring managers recognize it as important in a job interview? They certainly do, and here are The Top Three Questions they ask:

  • How do you make decisions? Be able to explain to yourself and others how you make them.
  • Describe the process you typically follow to make a decision about a plan of action.
  • How will you decide whether to accept a job offer should I offer you a job that you think is a good match for your skills and preferred workplace?

Making good choices and decisions brings value. Good decision making is an essential skill. There is a tremendous need for good decision makers in today’s world. How do you rate yourself? 

I saved the most important key mindset strategy till last! It is Positivity. Have you taken the “Strengths Finder 2.0” assessment? You can find the book online, and there is an access code contained in it so you can do it online.

Once you complete the assessment a printout of your top 5 strengths will be available for you. Many recruiters, hiring managers, and companies are requiring you to take it, and also many people are including their strengths on their LinkedIn profiles. 

I am glad this has become more important than ever. I know focusing on our strengths first versus dwelling on our weaknesses helps us to stay positive. 

A positive mindset is an attitude someone has who “expects” good and desired results. The power of positivity is immense, and it can help you convert that energy into reality.

Being positive is how all these three key strategic mindsets work together! Allowing negative thoughts to dominate your mind, will certainly be a barrier to developing a strong resilience and being able to rebound from any adversity you face. You will not be able to see the great choices and decisions you can make without having a positive mindset in place.

Positive thinking doesn’t mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life’s tragic and bad situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach them in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst.

Don’t you like being around positive people? Great leaders are always positive because they know that it helps them, and their teams, be more productive and reach their goals. Managers (at every level) who want to excel choose to adopt a positive attitude. 

In today’s world many people ask how can you stay positive? It goes back to choices! We can decide to be positive or negative, can’t we? 

One of my speakers, Will Bowen is a top proponent in being positive, and even shows us how to be complaint free! He shares:
“Your thoughts create your life and your words indicate what you are thinking!”
More about Will see https://bit.ly/2YCBF7R

So what does it take to have a Positive Mindset, and can or should everyone have one?

One of the biggest advantages to having a positive mindset is how much it affects our health! John Hopkins University of Medicine shares that a positive mindset can give you:

  • Longer life span
  • Less stress
  • Improved immune system
  • Faster recovery from surgery
  • Increased resistance to the common cold
  • Better resiliency in coping with life
  • Lower risk of heart disease
  • Increased physical well-being
  • Better psychological health

WOW, isn’t that something we all need and want?  So if that is true how do we develop and maintain a positive mindset and will it help us at work?

Since one of my top strengths is Positivity, I have found these 5 Tips for Achieving and Maintaining a Positive Mindset by Kevin Leyes in Thrive Global inspired me to share my thoughts:  https://bit.ly/2zvYUI6

  1. Surround Yourself With Positive People- both in person and on Social Media.
  2. Get Close To Nature- get out and enjoy our beautiful world. 
  3. Strive To Improve And Maintain A Positive Attitude- it takes work and you have to be intentional. 
  4. Go On- no matter what! There is life after every experience we go through!
  5. Focus On Your Dreams And Goals- never lose sight of them no matter your age or stage! 

These will take work! But the benefits are so worth it! Question for you- are you a positive person? Why or Why Not?Is being positive really something hiring managers are looking at in an interview, or do you need it in running your company? 

Yes, they are, and today we need it more than ever! Here are the Top 3 Questions you may encounter the next time you are job interviewing!

  1. There is a half glass of water in front of you. Is it half-empty or half-full?
  2. If you dine at some cafe and the waiter pour a cup of hot coffee on you. How will you react?
  3. If you need some assistance from your coworker but she/he refuses on the spot. What will be your response?

I hope you have a Remarkable Journey learning about the power you have in being a  resilient person, one who makes good choices, and being positive even when it looks like a negative world all around you! These mindsets will led us to move forward at a faster pace that we ever thought possible!

Sue Falcone is the Founder and CEO of Remarkable! A Speakers Bureau. She believes in using her expertise to help others as well as serving her clients and the speakers and music artists she represents. She has been honored by the Triad Business Journal as an “Outstanding Women in Business,” Volunter of the Year from Guilford Merchants Association and Business High Point Chamber of Commerce, and was recently nominated as Small Business of the Year of Business High Point Chamber of Commerce. She is involved in mentoring others and is the Director of her Nonprofit, Lifetree Cafe. See more about Sue: https://bit.ly/2BbWRt2

Do You Need a Bow and Arrow Moment?

Bow and ArrowDo You Need a Bow and Arrow Moment?
This week-end something happened that has been a dream for many years! Something wanted and talked about for years!  Began my journey to being an Archer!  Where did that come from? Watching too many Robin Hood shows growing up? What good can it do? There is no desire to hunt, fish, or compete, which is what you normally do with a bow and arrow. The goal solely is to experience the thrill of one day being good enough to hit the target dead center! And be able to keep doing it!

Isn’t that what our lives and businesses are all about?
-Having a desire and passion
-Letting yourself and others know about it
-Planning how it can happen
-Getting the right tools to work with
-Making the choice and time to do it
-Keep on going and not quitting

Today is it time for your “bow and arrow” moment?  The challenge is: will you do it?

Sue Falcone
Founder and CEO of Simply Sue Speaks Global Booking Agency

3 Key Secrets to Living the Life You Want!

livethelifeDo you know the 3 Key Secrets to living the life you want? Take a minute, challenge yourself, and see what you come up with!  I would love to hear your comments!

Recently I was asked to speak to an awesome group of high school sophomores and juniors who were graduating from a 2 year program of service sponsored by their local Chamber of Commerce! They had learned and demonstrated great skills and abilities, and had served their community well! My outcome was to motivate them into their successful futures and help them continue this experience of service into their daily lives, in 30 minutes or less!

Normally I am booking other speakers instead of myself;  but this was an honor and a joy to do! I had met a lot of these students, and it would help keep me connected to what I promote; and be a great experience of seeing how the 6 Generations in the Workplace communicate with each other!

I knew I had just seconds to get them involved. My first words were to give them permission to Tweet, Instagram, Facebook, Vine, Snapchat, and take notes on any device they chose!  They agreed to keep their ring tones down, so I wouldn’t want to stop and listen to their music!

I gave them the challenge as I did to you, to share what they thought the 3 key secrets are!  They had great points and ended up complimenting what I had in mind all along!

Here are the what we found are the 3 Key Secrets to living the life you want, and how to live them out loud every day!

  1. Know Who You Are- I’m talking about the “real” you when no one is looking! This is key because it will help you avoid comparing yourself to others, and help you develop your strengths rather than wasting time working to improve your weaknesses! How do you know the “real” you? By accepting, loving, and believing in yourself without wishing to be someone else. Learn to not let your “imperfections” (and we all have them) become your identity! Learn to be comfortable in your own skin and in turn it will help others be comfortable with you and overlook everything else!
  2. Have a Positive Attitude- Your mind is a funny thing, isn’t it? What you put in it is what you become. Having a positive attitude is a choice, and begins the moment you wake up each day! How is it possible to keep a positive attitude in this negative world? It’s important to choose the right things to read, what you view on TV and YouTube, and how you see yourself as a valuable person. Fear, doubt, worry, and discouragement are all around, but positive information and faith will guide you in overcoming the negative and face life with a smile and seek solutions and not excuses!
  3. Choose Carefully Who You Surround Yourself With- Jim Rohn says: “You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”  If this is true, isn’t it worth making sure you make the right choices of whom you spend your time with? Right now as you read this think of the 5 people you spend the most time with! Are they positive and uplifting? Do they know who “they” are? Do they build you and others up, not down? Is it possible you might need to make some changes?

See how these fit together in the daily adventure of life? To have a life you want means to share, care, volunteer, and serve. It’s not about you at all! You are already unique and special, you need to keep focused on knowing and living who you really are, keeping a positive attitude, and surrounding yourself with the right people!

Amazingly I saw these students and others writing down what I was sharing, and afterwards they were still talking more about their how’s and what they planned to do in their lives! I saw the future of our nation, future leaders, and future families represented there, and I am so thankful their parents, friends, and community leaders got to see it too!

I left there with a renewed heart, mind, body, and soul, ready to face my world of choices!  Are you ready to begin a new day of living your life out loud knowing the 3 Key Secrets that will make it happen?

Sue Falcone
Sue Falcone

 

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

Do Women Have to Be Mean to Succeed in Business?

I think that somewhere along the way, some women got this idea that in order to succeed they had to be aggressive, mean, and out for themselves – that touchy feely, heartsy, lets all join hands and do this together, just wasn’t going to cut it in business.

And some women got the idea that being confident, aggressive, bold, and competitive is too mean. And women are supposed to be nice. It’s in the rule book.

I’d like to suggest that there is a happy place in the middle of pompously self-absorbedand take my job I don’t need it as much as you do.  I’d like to suggest that you can have a bold opinion, outsell your competitor, dominate in your industry, and still be likeable, humble, respected and even revered.

I’d like to suggest to all you really mean women out there, that aside from the fact that you are making enemies, you probably aren’t winning as much business as you could.

I’d like to suggest to all of you overly nice women out there, that it doesn’t have to be all give and no take. You are allowed to have a strong opinion. You are allowed to know what makes you better than your competitor. You are allowed to be proud of your achievements and accomplishments and to always be striving for higher.

I’d like to suggest that we as women take a look around and see how we’re doing at really helping and encouraging and supporting each other – and yet also taking a look around and seeing how well we are doing about owning our own gifts, stepping into our jobs with confidence, being bold and taking business that we have worked hard to get.

Then again – it’s just a suggestion. Probably not even heard by the ones who need to hear it most.

I’m just saying.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.