Wondering how many of you are just like me, when it comes to saying NO?  Here I am a certified Time Management gal, knowing we can’t and shouldn’t do it all; but still face from time to time the hazards of not being able to say No!

Whether at the workplace or at home-there are so many “good” things in this world to do to help others, and feel good doing it, it is hard to choose which ones you should say yes, and those you MUST say No, isn’t it?

I recently heard this quote: “”It’s only by saying “no”that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” Guess who said that? Might surprise you, but it was Steve Jobs.

I want to fulfill my purpose and mission in the time that I am here in my earth suit, so doesn’t it make sense that I am going to have to be able to get this skill set in line?

To begin with we need to know what our priorities are, so that when someone, either by mail, email, phone, or in person approaches us to offer us another Yes to add to our already over scheduled life; we can say No with confidence.

How about we learn it is OK to say no, and we need to keep it simple, and don’t apologize for saying it! Would that help us do it?

What if, when you get that request, before quickly responding, you actually take some time and think about it?  Know that if you say Yes, what you will have to give up to make it happen.

Then if you really can’t say the word, how about offering an alternative when you are asked? At least you won’t feel as guilty saying “it.”

However, the bottom line remains you are just going to have to say it, mean it, and make up your mind what you can and can not and should not do.

What are the benefits of being able to say No and feel good about it? You will have less stress and be able to have that “me” and family time you need. It will also help you being healthier as you will have more time to focus on those things that promote good health.

It will also help you live that blended and balanced life that we all long for.

In writing this I feel better already about being able to say No! Hope it helps you too. Together we can learn to say No and still be able to accomplish the important things in this life.

Oh, the phone is ringing, bet I get to practice this right now! Have fun saying No!  Let me know it works for you:)

Have a great week!

 

 “Simply” Sue

 

 

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7 replies on “Need to Learn to Say NO??”

  • October 15, 2012 at 9:00 pm

    You said what we all need to say–and you said it so well! Thanks, Sue. I’m off to the gym so I can keep saying YES to what lies ahead, knowing that NO reflects our priorities, not our lack of interest.

  • October 16, 2012 at 7:15 am

    Sue, great post! I’ve always heard that if something you’re asked to do doesn’t fit in with your priorities, you should say “no”. Thanks for the reminder!
    Janet

  • October 16, 2012 at 7:53 am

    Thanks for all the comments here, sounds like the key to saying no is to know your priorities in life, and if the request doesn’t fit, then saying No becomes easier. Now off to set my priorities for the day:)

  • October 16, 2012 at 11:07 am

    Saying no can actually be the kindest thing you say to someone. If you truly have no time to do something for someone, saying no will allow them to seek help elsewhere. I used to have an internet radio show where I invited guests on each week. I can’t tell you the number of times a guest would simply not show up. Some were kind enough to let me know the night before, but that meant I had to restructure the entire show in a few hours. We should always evaluate what is a priority for us and what we have time to do for others because what we commit to affects more than just us and our feelings about turning someone down.

  • October 18, 2012 at 11:36 am

    Sue, I have this problem, too…as I assume most speakers and writers do. After all, helping is one of the reasons we write and speak. But I’m trying more and more to be faithful to say yes only to those things I’m supposed to say yes to. Your comment that if we say yes to something we AREN’T supposed to do, that means we’ll have to say no to something that perhaps we ARE supposed to do.

    Hmmmm. Lots of think about! Thanks!

    • October 18, 2012 at 12:56 pm

      Hi Vonda,
      Finding out speakers and writers do not have a “market” on this:) Again looks like making sure we have our priorities clear and simple is the key. That sounds like another blog coming up:) Thanks for your comments and look forward to seeing you in Greensboro next month!
      Hugs and Blessings,
      “Simply” Sue

  • October 18, 2012 at 4:27 pm

    2 Year olds do not have an issue saying NO, somehow we grow out of that! When we say yes to too many things we do not do them well, I would rather do fewer things well than sacrifice quality to get more done!