Do Women Have to Be Mean to Succeed in Business?

I think that somewhere along the way, some women got this idea that in order to succeed they had to be aggressive, mean, and out for themselves – that touchy feely, heartsy, lets all join hands and do this together, just wasn’t going to cut it in business.

And some women got the idea that being confident, aggressive, bold, and competitive is too mean. And women are supposed to be nice. It’s in the rule book.

I’d like to suggest that there is a happy place in the middle of pompously self-absorbedand take my job I don’t need it as much as you do.  I’d like to suggest that you can have a bold opinion, outsell your competitor, dominate in your industry, and still be likeable, humble, respected and even revered.

I’d like to suggest to all you really mean women out there, that aside from the fact that you are making enemies, you probably aren’t winning as much business as you could.

I’d like to suggest to all of you overly nice women out there, that it doesn’t have to be all give and no take. You are allowed to have a strong opinion. You are allowed to know what makes you better than your competitor. You are allowed to be proud of your achievements and accomplishments and to always be striving for higher.

I’d like to suggest that we as women take a look around and see how we’re doing at really helping and encouraging and supporting each other – and yet also taking a look around and seeing how well we are doing about owning our own gifts, stepping into our jobs with confidence, being bold and taking business that we have worked hard to get.

Then again – it’s just a suggestion. Probably not even heard by the ones who need to hear it most.

I’m just saying.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at or call 1-888-766-3155.

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