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It’s Motivational Monday with Kelly Swanson

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Kelly Swanson’s Wild and Wacky Journey to a Happier Ever After

What’s it all about? Let me tell you…

So How Did It Happen?

Well, like most things in this business of being a motivational speaker, I didn’t go after it, it came after me. I was just out there doing my thing -encouraging the world and making people laugh – and doing everything I can to let people know I’m here.

And I get an email from the founder of Placebo Effect. I’ll explain what that is in a minute.

But the point is that he wanted me to put together a thirty-day program to help people bring happiness back into their lives. And the beautiful thing is that he was going to let me do it MY WAY.  (My two favorite words.)

I was hesitant at first, and Barb (my inner critic) told me I didn’t have time, it probably wouldn’t make me any money, and that perhaps this guy was all fluff.

bulgeswomanBut I had this feeling.

Not in my head – but in my heart.

I had this feeling that even if this didn’t “pay off” – I would be helping people do what I was called to do – find happiness.

And I just don’t believe you can put a price tag on giving people hope.

So I said yes.

It took a tremendous amount of work, fast deadlines, and jumping into a pool that I had never swam in before, and I’m not sure I was wearing the right bathing suit.

But I’m no stranger to change, and I know this is exactly what it feels like when you come out of your comfort zone.

There are no guarantees and no road maps. You just feel your way – one day at a time.

What Is The Placebo Effect? How can Placebos possibly do anything for … me?

When I first heard of it, I said “Placebo Effect” what in the heck is that?  Well, to borrow their words, here is what it is…

Researchers at Harvard and other prestigious universities discovered that people don’t have to be deceived to experience a placebo effect… nor do they need to take little sugar pills. Instead, the placebo effect requires just three ingredients to help people feel happier, focus better, lose more weight, heal faster, and so on.

• Positive Belief
• Social Support
• Daily Rituals

The Placebo Challenge

We’ve worked with researchers at UCSD, Harvard, and top institutes to develop a simple formula for success:

Step 1: Choose a Prescription

We offer four 30-day prescriptions in which to harness the placebo effect:

Happiness, Focus, Life Purpose, or Weight loss.

Step 2: Watch a Daily Placebo

For 30 days, watch daily ONE MINUTE insightful videos that inspire you to achieve your goal- we call them PLACEBOS.

Step 3: Share Your Progress

Each day, after watching a Placebo, share one thing you will do to accomplish your goal.

Your Reward: Scroll to See the Numbers!

A report of your progress is always available. If you’re like most people, after thirty days of Placebos, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

What Is Kelly’s Wild And Wacky Journey All About?

You will read more about it when I direct you to the Placebo website. But basically it’s a thirty-day series of two minute videos – created by me – funny and motivating and inspiring – with assignments at the end of each one. Each morning (or whenever you feel like it) you open up the day’s prescription (which was sent to your email) and take your dose.

And when you sign up, you are now part of my happiness community, where you can meet other subscribers and talk with me about your progress.

Sign Up NOW Before The Price Goes UP!

So there you go.  This is the official launch of my 30-day program. And here’s the really cool thing. Listen up close..

WE ARE OFFERING AN INTRODUCTORY SPECIAL LOW PRICE TO THE FIRST HUNDRED PEOPLE WHO SIGN UP!  YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BELIEVE HOW INEXPENSIVE THIS IS – IF YOU SIGN UP NOW.

Once the offer ends, the price of the program will go up.

What is happiness worth to you?
Isn’t it time to get your life back?

How To Sign UP:
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Here’s the link to go sign up. Don’t wait…..people have already started subscribing.  Once you get to the site (www.placeboeffect.com) be sure to find my prescription under “Happiness.”

Just look for this picture or click the link below for all the details:

I’m excited to share this journey with you. You deserve to be happy.

Kelly

To have Kelly at your next event contact Sue Falcone at 888-766-3155 or email sue@simplysuespeaks.com

It’s Motivational Monday with Kelly Swanson

It’s Not About Who Is The Best Motivational Speaker!

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Mirror Mirror On The Wall – Who’s The Best Motivational Speaker Of Them All?

Every once in a while I hear that question posed on Facebook – “Who’s the best speaker out there?” And I always grit my teeth because the question just doesn’t make sense. That’s like asking who is the best singer – or the best actor – or the best guitar player – or the best painter.  Speakers, like artists, are going to appeal to the people they appeal to most.

It’s not about whether you are the best, it’s about whether you are the best fit for that audience.

This will sound like I’m bragging (sorry) but I get standing ovations all the time. I get high evaluations all the time. I get booked all the time and I get asked back all the time.

Does that mean I’m the best? No. Not even close. It means I’m very good at what I do, and I’m in front of the right crowd for me.

That’s not always the case. I did a group of sanitation workers in a small town out west. It was awful. They hated it. From the moment they walked in, I knew I was in trouble. I did my best stuff – stuff that had killed over and over. I gave it everything I had. And they still hated it. “Don’t have her back,” someone put on their evaluation.

Does that mean my ranking on the “Who’s The Best Speaker” list went down? No. It means I was the wrong fit. Period. To them, I wasn’t the best – and was quite possibly the worst. To the group I did last week, I was the best they had ever seen. Different group, different likes, different needs. For them, I fit like a glove.

So stop worrying about whether you’re the best in this business, and focus on being the best fit.


Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by “Our State Magazine” as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

 

It’s Motivational Monday with Kelly Swanson

When Hecklers Say You Suck

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Funny Motivational Speaker Heads To The Land of Hecklers

I have a love/hate relationship with YouTube. I love the traffic it brings me. And I hate the traffic it brings me. Because some of that traffic is vicious. Yesterday it happened again. I got one of those comments.

It was a comment on my story about the woman with a mop. A comment from Dong Destroyer.

Dong Destroyer said it was a fake story, that I was scamming for Jesus, and then called me a name I’d rather not repeat.

My first thought was, “Mom?”

Last year this comment would have crippled me. Last year I would have carried this comment around in my head for weeks. Last year I would have called all my friends to see if they thought it was true. Last year I would have talked about this nonstop to my husband, waking him up in the middle of the night so he can remind me that I don’t suck.

But that was last year. Today – I laughed. And I actually felt a little sorry for Dong Destroyer and his obvious bitterness over the actions of a stranger.

Today I don’t care what Dong says. Because it’s not a fake story, it is a true story. And even if it had been a fake story, I still wouldn’t mind. I’m a writer. I write fake stories. Get over it. (Except for this one. This one is true. You just can’t make up somebody likeDong Destroyer.)

The story never even brought up Jesus unless Dong thought I was implying that the holy of holies wears a hair net. In fact, I didn’t even know it was about Jesus. And if it was, I would have been even prouder. I’m a big fan of Jesus.

And scamming? What’s that all about? I’m not sure you could call my YouTube video a scam, especially since I wasn’t selling anything. I think scams are when you sell something and don’t deliver on what you promise. Right? This was a YouTube video, so I’m pretty sure it delivered the same thing 1 million other YouTube videos deliver, which, if you’ve seen the big hairy guy skiing naked, isn’t much.

So I did what I do with all of my feedback. I read it. As hard as it is to do, I listen to the feedback. Then I determine whether there is anything valid I can learn from it. Then I consider the source. (A.k.a. Dong Destroyer) And then I let it go.

This fits right into my theory that life isn’t about what happens to you, but about the story you write with what happened to you.  Feedback happens. I can’t control whatDong says.  That is the part that happened to me. But in the moment following, I get to write the story of how this feedback will affect me. How much control will I give this heckler?

I can write a story that says I suck. I can write a story that says everybody feels likeDong does. I can write a story that says if somebody doesn’t like what I do then I should quit. I can write a story that says I am sad, disappointed, and rejected all over again. I can write a story that says I am stupid.

Or, I can write a different story. And today I did.  I wrote a story that says this is just one person’s opinion. I wrote a story that says I still love the woman with a mop and I’m going to keep telling it whenever I can. I wrote a story that says Dong is an idiot.  (Well, that story pretty much wrote itself.) I wrote a story that says I don’t need to get him back. He’s not worth it. Let it go.

Today, I laugh in the face of criticism. I laugh in the face of my heckler.

When you can laugh at your heckler, you take away his power over you.

That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it. Take that Dong Destroyer.

What about you? Are you carrying around a story that needs to be rewritten?

(PS. To paraphrase my buddy JC – to some we will be a foul stench, and to others a sweet rose.)

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by “Our State Magazine” as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

They Aren’t The Reason You Are Miserable

grouchyBeing a motivational speaker feels a lot like being a therapist, only without the degree, knowledge, or credibility. But still I meet people in their places of brokenness. I hear their issues and concerns. And I try to motivate them to see their problems/issues from a different perspective. And one of the consistent things I find in people, is the belief that their problem is someone else.

My boss is  jerk.

They didn’t value my opinion.

He didn’t call.

She’s always running her mouth about something.

He drives me crazy.

She thinks I don’t have anything else to do but wait on her.

They didn’t pay me what I’m worth.

He’s an ungrateful teenager and I’m sick of it.

She thinks she’s better than everybody else.

They didn’t give me my money’s worth.

She just has it out for me.

Nobody will cut me any slack.

Sound familiar?

We all find ourselves victim to this sort of thinking. We don’t live in a bubble. Our lives are filled with people, and many of them are difficult to deal with.  And while we are often valid in our assessment of these people, it doesn’t change the truth – that we can’t fix them, change them, or find perfect people who act exactly as we want.

And they aren’t the problem.

We are.

Yes, I said it. And you’re probably mad. But it’s true.

They aren’t the reason you are miserable.

YOU are.

Life is filled with things circling us that are beyond our control – things happening to us – around us. Things that involve us directly, indirectly, or not really at all.  So much of what is circling around us can’t be controlled. Sure, some of it can be, and we should definitely work to control what we can in our lives. But the only thing you can control in EVERY situation, is how YOU will react to it.

YOU control your reaction.

YOU control your feelings. Well, maybe at first you  can’t control your initial reaction. But after you calm down, you can.

YOU decide what story you are going to write with this data you have been given, even if you are standing in the middle of the colossal mess. YOU still control whether you will allow it to make you miserable.

Unless you have a chemical imbalance, or issues bigger than you (in which case, this does not really apply to you, except that it is YOUR responsibility to get help for it and not use it as an excuse) you can control your reactions, your emotions, and your happiness. Yes, it’s a choice.

YOU are the one who turns one bad moment into a bad hour, and then a bad day, and a bad week, and a bad life. You are the one who instead of letting it go, carries it around with you like a comfort blanket – finding more people to share your issue with – making it the focus of all your time, energy, and conversations.

So, unless you want to stay miserable (which apparently some people do – and actually thrive on it) that’s your choice. Just acknowledge that it’s your fault, not theirs. They aren’t the reason you are miserable. You are.

You can choose happiness. And if you do it enough, one day you’ll wake up, and it just is.

If we let others make us miserable, we always will be.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by “Our State Magazine” as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

Something Bigger To Believe In

believeWhen I got to speak to the marine spouses at Camp LeJeune, I had the honor of staying at the Brigadier General’s house. What an honor! And what an extreme hardship, trying to be on my best behavior for that long. (He told me the bow was not necessary.)

Later he and I were talking about me being a motivational speaker, and I asked him this question:

My husband and I have this ongoing discussion (argument) about whether people can be motivated. My husband believes in the old adage that you can’t motivate people – you need to get the right people on the bus. While I understand that, I can’t help but think that some people can be motivated. And I think the military proves this. I know people who went into the military one way, and came out another. Your people are definitely motivated. So which is it? Get the right people to begin with, or can they  be motivated? And if they can be motivated – how?

Here was the General’s reply:

Yes, people can be motivated. It’s not simple, and it doesn’t happen in one step, but a series of strategic repeated steps. But they can be motivated. You just have to give them something to believe in bigger than themselves.

I don’t think it’s the military alone where this plays out. I think there are examples throughout our world and throughout history where people became motivated over a common goal or vision. So while some might not ever get motivated from an outside force, many can, and will be, if given something bigger to believe in.

And so I challenge you to look at your work and even your life as more than a job description or a line item on an application. I challenge you to rewrite that story to be much bigger than the job itself. Give yourself something bigger to believe in. Type it up and hang it where you can see it often and be reminded that you serve something bigger than the task at hand.

And who knows, you just might find yourself happier at work.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by “Our State Magazine” as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivation Monday- Crafting a Speech with Kelly Swanson

Speech Writing: The 3 Column Template for Crafting a Speech

Speech Writing: The 3 Column Template for Crafting a Speech by motivational speaker Kelly Swanson

We all have different approaches to writing a speech – none of them wrong if it results in a quality product.

Sometimes the hardest part of writing a speech happens before you write the first word –the preparation – that stage when all of your thoughts and ideas are floating above your head in no order whatsoever.

You sort of know what you want to say in bits and pieces, but have no idea of how to put it together. Or how to even start. And when you try to explain it to somebody it sounds even worse. This article is to help you prepare those thoughts and ideas to make the writing process much easier.

How?

By organizing your thoughts in three columns.

I’m going to assume that you have a message and you have an audience. If you don’t, then perhaps you should be rethinking this whole “I’m going to be a famous speaker” idea. You need a message. The audience can come later, but you still must have some idea of who you are talking to. A speech written for teens will be much different than a speech written for senior citizens.

On a piece of paper draw three columns. Give the first column the title: MESSAGE. Give the second column the title: ABOUT ME.  Give the third column the title: ABOUT THEM.

Your speech will have three major components: the message and points you want to make (what you want to teach them), the stories you have chosen to illustrate those points, and the things you will do to make your message about them.

All three are vital, especially the last column, which so many speakers forget resulting in a speech filled with instructions that is only about them.

In the first (Message) column you basically finish these statements in your words:

We have a problem in our world today and it is __________

And because of this people __________

And __________

happens I have experienced this myself when __________

And found that the answer is __________

And here are the steps you take to get there _________

The message column is the place where you are basically setting up the problem, your solution, and that you are here to help fix it, and here’s how you do it. This is the content  – the take away – what people will learn from you that they can take back to their lives on Monday morning.

The second (ABOUT YOU) column is all about you.

These are your stories, your life experiences, stories about people you know – comedy bits, pictures, music – whatever you want to use to SHOW your audience how this message applies to life.

This is the part that adds the energy and flavor and helps you address things like short attention spans.

This is the part where you can swap out stories for ones that fit this particular audience better.

This is the part that is truly unique to you as a speaker and a performer.

The last (ABOUT THEM) column is about them.

This is where you take your message and ask them how it relates to them. The best way to make your speech about them is to ask questions – even if you don’t expect them to answer.

Use statements like:

Have you ever noticed this about yourself?

Have you seen the signs in your own life?

What do you do in those situations?

Where are you stuck?

Do you find examples of this in your own life?

Let’s talk about how this affects you.

Do you remember back to a time when?

Why don’t we discuss some ways that you….?

Do you ever feel…?

When have you found…..?

If I can do this, so can you. It’s not too late for you to…..

Now you merge the three columns in any order you want, using your own style of language to achieve the desired affect.

Have fun and happy writing!

Kelly
KELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by “Our State Magazine” as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

 

It’s Motivational Monday with Kelly Swanson

One Family’s Leap of Courage

Today I will let this video say it all:

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Being a motivational speaker rocks!

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.

It’s Motivation Monday with Kelly Swanson

Behind The Scenes Peek At Motivational Speaker Kelly Swanson

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Take a look behind the scenes at a day-in-the-life of motivational speaker Kelly Swanson.

Kelly SwansonKELLY SWANSON is an award-winning storyteller, comedian, author, motivational speaker. She has been described by Our State Magazine as one of North Carolina’s funniest women. She uses hilarious comedy, powerful stories, and a wacky cast of southern characters to make people laugh, remind them of their value, and show them how to stand up and stick out in their lives, businesses, and communities. Her shows have delighted audiences from coast to coast, from board rooms to cruise ships. To invite Kelly to your 2014 event, contact Sue Falcone at sue@simplysuespeaks.com or call 1-888-766-3155.